I dunno

[thesunshinesbrightly]

I don't know what too do. I am in a new relationship, i don't know if i want to be in, i have children and it just seem's like a big effort.
I'm the sort of person that i like to be left alone with my children without any bother from anyone, or i like to switch my phone off over the weekend and be left alone.
If i want to go away for the weekend, i don't want to explain myslef to anyone, i just want to take my kid's and go.
We have been together for a few month's and i don't feel my heart is in it, but i don't want to hurt him as he has been hurt before. Please mumsnetter's give me a kick up the bum, i can take it.

Let him go now before he gets more attached.
Not fair to carry it on really.

it's hardly fair on him at present, is it!

Let him go. It's kinder.

No kick up the bum but you must do what is best for you and if that means walking away, then so be it. You only have one life and you can't live it without having to upset someone or give bad news at some point.

My guess is that you'd feel relieved after you have done it. He will get over it and better sooner than later when things are deeper.

That's the trouble i really don't want to hurt him but i know you are right it is not kind to do this either.
But after a ex abusive partner, i don't think i can really be bothered anymore.
I wanted a bit of fun but he is starting to get more serious and i find myslef looking for warning signs with my new partner. I know you are all right and thank you for replies.