He's trying to shag the babysitter, what a fucking cliche.

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Have a delightful but unplanned toddler. Been living together for last 2yrs although to various issues been fairly on and off.

He had made a few comments about the babysitter - who used to be our daughters nursery nurse - that were a little inappropriate but thought nothing of it. Today, he leaves his Facebook open and lo and behold, he has tracked her down on Facebook, been texting her, asking for pics and messaging each other intensively. She's barely 19.

I am so fucking done. We were trying really hard (or so I thought) to make things better for us and our DD. Thankfully he has another flat he can go to in a couple of weeks.

I feel like such a fucking idiot. He has done nothing but lie and lie to me over the years. Please remind me I deserve so much better than this? Ugh, I feel sick

You absolutely deserve better than him. What an arsehole.

Thank goodness he has somewhere else to go so you don't have to put up with this shit anymore, BIG shame he can't get out sooner.

You're not an idiot, he is. He's behaved like a total loser.

Poor you, how crap.

How old is he? 15? What a loser. Because she's really going to be interested in him for more than 5 minutes.

He is 30 but has a serious problem, he can't grow up. Part of me feels relieved that something has pushed me, we've been unhappy for a long time. In fact, I am not sure I ever was happy.

He dumped me three times when I was pregnant. I should have left then.

In two months time you will look back at this moment and be relieved that you found out as it will give you the strength to kick this immature prick out of your life.

You deserve so much more than this sorry excuse for a man.

Welcome to Mumsnet by the way!

Oh for heaven's sake - you poor, poor thing. A 30 year old chasing a 19 year old? How ridiculous is that?

You sooo do not need this crap. Fuckwitted man.

So, get rid and get on with your fantastic new life!

Not new, name changed as he knows my MN name. Moldies, lulumama and Mars the resident birth gurus, morningpaper and GF, Reality getting married etc.

I feel so embarrassed. I assume everyone at nursery knows as they all go out regularly - the workers obv, not the parents. I just feel like they will have all been laughing at me, stupid thing to worry about really.

I hope not and I think it's unlikely. She'd have to be pretty stupid to advertise the fact that she's flirting with one of the fathers... Plus I bet her friends would be a bit "ewww" about a 30 year old man.

Good that you found out now rather than later although I know that doesn't help.

You will look back on this and be glad, honestly you will.

And yes, you DO deserve better, he is a sad loser, a liar and a turd burglar.

He searched my history on pc and told me that he knows I am posting on Mumsnet about him so going to leave this now.

Thanks though, feel a bit calmer now although am totally drained. Sweet tea and bed for me I think.

omg what a knob

Lovely - stalky immature teenager shagger. Or in the eyes of the babysitter's friends, creepy, sleazy old man with baby. Yuck.

What a creep. You'll look back in years to come and breathe a sigh of relief you escaped this early on.

Urgh well bit of a twat reading your MN posts but least you are shot of him sooner!

You are well rid and you DO deserve better. abedelia is right her and her nursery colleagues will have as little respect for him as us vipers. What an eeejit.

If you feel sad, imagine him down the pub with her and her mates, sinking alcopops and trying to converse with her college-age mates. How sad.

what a dick.

(embarrassed at having had much bigger age-gap relations at that age)

No, what a knob though. Sounds like manchild syndrome to me, freaking out about being a dad etc. No excuse though.