So, I've posted before that my relationship with my XP was EA and probably violent as well - he never "hit" me, but "play fighting" went that little bit too far.
I bite the skin around my thumbs when I'm stressed/worried (disgusting, I know) and my XP told me that he'd slap me whenever he saw me doing it. Course I said No Way - I can do what I want to my own body! Anyway, next time he saw me doing it, he squeezed the sort points on my thumbs so hard, they brought tears to my eyes - and then said it was my own fault, as he told me what would happen if I carried on doing it.
There're other things, but you get the idea.
To cut a long story short (Whew!), due to the snow and not being able to get the car out/our DD to school we were both home on Wednesday and he ended up accompanying our DD and me to Asda.
There were a lot of people there, stocking up in case the weather got too bad, so the queues for the tills were quite long. We were almost at the checkout, when I realised that I'd forgotten something, so I nipped off to get it. I was gone no more than two minutes tops.
When I got back to the checkout, I just saw my XP bearing down on a man who must've been twice his age. I had to grab him round the waist, pull him away and ask him what the heck he was doing? Answer? The man and his wif and pushed in front of him in the queue!
I tried to tell him that is no reason at all to hit someone , let alone shout/act like that in frount of our DD who is only 3! Of ccourse,all he could see is that it wasn't HHIS fault,this couple shouldn't have pushed in. There was also an allegation made by the man's wife, that my XP had pushed a trolley into her, which was what had started the threat of violence, but I didn't see it, so don't know if it was true or not.
Security were called. Another checkout opened for the other couple and we swiftly left.
He has not said that he's sorry for what very nearly happened or said that he was wrong at all.
Now I know my XP has a nasty temper, but I've never seen him lose it so completely in public before. He is normally very protective of his public image, iykwim.
This follows hot on the heels of me receiving from him an extremely abusive pphone call, completely out of the blue, when I was at work, due to a misunderstanding about access to our DD.
My sister thinks that he is having a breakdown. I think that he is acting like this because he has a new GF, he has to "keep her sweet" at the moment and is taking his frustrations out on me (as usual) and random strangers.
What do you think, please? I know people here have more experience of this stuff than I have. Should I be worried for my daughter/me about the overt violence? Do you think he's escalating, or just going through a bad patch?
Thanks - sorry for the long post. x