Do you love your DH/DP but not their gross personal habits?

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I am wondering whether or not to have another attempt at asking my dh to refrain from various gross personal habits (GPH) and I thought I would garner some opinions first from other women.

My main problem is that I find it slowly but surely kills off my ability to fancy him and I do think that after 12 years you have to do what you can to keep the attraction alive, not kill it off!

So, for instance, I would really rather he didn't fart 20 times a day, pick his nose, leave the loo door open when he poos, clear his throat loudly to get the phlegm up etc.

He has stopped a couple of things which I mentioned in the past but his argument was that in his own home he wants to be able to relax and do what he wants.

Which is fine but how relaxed will he be when I finally stick an axe through his head because it makes me so annoyed and disgusted?

I think it is the farting which makes me most annoyed. Doing it before sex has been known (only twice mind). Doing it in the small kitchen so that you go in to do something and a disgusting smell envelops you is not on I reckon.

Please tell me what you think and what works in your relationship. I must say I am most interested in those relationships where you do love the man but not his GPH.

I nicknamed my DH 'Mr Earth Wind and Fire' and completely take the pee out of him when he's forgets himself and overly indulges in too many personal emmissions.

Now he goes into another room to fart - and apologises if one sneaks out accidentally!

As for the other things, he leaves the toilet unflushed (not with number 2's though, thank god), picks his nose absentmindedly (and I tell him off), clears his throat and sneezes at incredible volume.

I tell him repeatedly he's being disgusting and that i don't know how I'm supposed to find him attractive when he behaves this way but my tolerance has increased slightly too. At least he has the grace to be abashed when he farts these days.

Just got back to the pc.

Thank you so much everyone for your thoughts.

It appears that there is a consensus that we do not appreciate these GPH. I am glad to hear that because now I can now go in armed, knowing that it is not just me being uptight.

However, those of you who were kind enough to share your partners' GPH, it appears that there is a huge difference between what they think is OK and what we think is OK. Why is that I wonder?

I am slightly disheartened to hear that some of you have tried repeatedly to get your partners to understand your point of view and it falls on deaf ears.

How can that happen with otherwise intelligent or decent men?

Anyway, I feel a little braver about my "little chat" now. Thanks all.

I think if these gph turn you off then maybe there are deeper issues you should look at.
Don't get me wrong I don't like them either but its just everyday life.

My DH's habits include the following:

1. Burps and blows it in my face which is the height of repulsiveness and makes me want to hurl.
2. Farts (but then I do too)
3. Goes for a slash and misses the target often resulting in piss on the bathroom floor.
4. Doesn't rinse the sink out after having a shave. 5)Picks his nails, toe and finger, very loudly and proceeds to collect them in his pocket for me to find when doing the washing, nice.
5. Cannot get through a meal without spilling something on himself (usually a sauce which leaves a bastard of a stain).
6. Scratches behind his ear and sniffs it (I really don't know why he has to know what that area smells like ).
7. After having a shite and when there is a turd that is simply too stubborn to flush he brands it "shiteanic-the unsinkable turd".
8. "adjusts" himself regularly and states he "has pubes trapped in his foreskin".
9. Eats left over cold pizza the next morning.

LOL wigglesworth some of those really made me laugh, although I can imagine they must be hell to live with.

DP also farts openly around me, he apologises if they smell, if they dont then he doesnt. He does that throat clearing thing which i put down to smoking as i used to do it when i smoked, now ive given up its completely gone

another woman married to a farting machine here - once he farted such a horrendous smell in his sleep it woke me up, fair enough he couldn't help that one, now he does generally go to other rooms.

Coughing/snorting out phlegm makes me gag (better out than in - well, yes but go do it somewhere else!)

shoving a tissue up his nose when he has a cold and forgetting about it so I wake up surrounded by disgusting snotty tissues

generally leaving snotty disgusting tissues EVERYWHERE!

I couldn't live with a man like this. I want to fancy my man. If he deliberately farted in front of me and left the toilet door open having a poo I couldn't. Neither of my husbands have done this though. With the women whose husbands do were they well mannered for a while and then suddenly got slobby and lazy or were they always into finding farting hilarious and something to be shared and you've just got fed up of it?
I hate sniffing too, luckily so does husband.
Don't think I'd have lasted a week with wigglesworth's husband. Number 10 I can understand, alot of the other stuff is just lazy and bad mannered.
Only extremely well brought up anal (in the freudian not the farty way) men need apply to live with me.