LATs (living apart together) - views please

[sparkybint]

I've posted here about lovely new DP who wants us to live together in the not too distant future. Initially I was all
euphoric about the idea but now I've had time to ruminate I'm wondering if it's inevitable. We're totally committed to eachother and he's wonderful in every way. But we both have dependent kids, have been married before and I've always been financially independent and I can't help thinking how nice it would be to maintain my own home whilst still having a committed relationship with him.

A friend of mine has been married for 10 years to a guy who lives 200 miles away and they only see eachother at weekends and are still totally in love! Obviously that's a bit extreme and wouldn't work with kids but what's the view on LATs? Can you really love someone and not want to live with them 24/7?

If he's still a fairly new DP I'd maybe do the LAT thing for a couple of years or so. It worked for a friend of mine, and they eventually married and moved in together properly.

No rush, and he sounds great so hopefully will understand that you want to take it slowly.

ive been with my dp for 4 years and we dont live together. i have my own ds and he has his own kids and situation and it just suits us to stay like this for now

me too. 5 years on its still good. 50 miles distance with us.

This is all good stuff! 60 miles between us so we don't see eachother as spontaneously as we'd like, but it works. How often do you see your DP Tiff? Does he have kids too and how does it work around children.

well,we have one together actually who is almost 2....and i have 4 from previous relationship. he has no others....but he has a house and job in his area.

wem see each other weekends and some evenings,but depends alot on work,kids,traffic and weather...