I think me & dh are splitting up

[SerendipitousHarlot]

He has left and gone to his mums.

He said that we can talk more rationally tomorrow and decide what we both want. Obviously that actually means what he wants. Again.

Truth be told, I don't know if it's worth all the hassle. I try and try to communicate, but he just won't. I really don't know if there's any future at all.

How do you save something when someone just doesn't hear you?

Counselling?

Would a bit of time apart maybe be a good thing? Time to work out whether or not you miss him, whether you can imagine life without him, whether it's worth working at? Tomorrow might be too soon for the chat.

I know the feeling - my H and I are in a similar situation.

When one person tries and tried but the other isn't interested it can never work.

My H and I are on the never ending waiting list for Relate - but maybe it wont be as long on the area you live in ?

Today is supposed to be "Divorce Monday" so maybe you H just need a break after you all being together for the holidays ?

Have you told him exactly what YOU want and how hurt you feel ?

I hope he has a night away and calms down and will talk rationally to you tomorrow ?

tbh I don't think you can save something when the other person doesn't want to.
does he want to be with you?
what does he want?
how does this tally with what you want?

How are things today Seren ?

Had your H come back home - have you managed to talk ?

Hope things are OK ?

i think unless you both want to make it work, it won't

am so sorry and i hope it is not too painful for you x

Sorry I didn't update last night, I was a mess.

We talked a lot today. It seems like there is something worth fighting for and all is ok for now. Let's hope I'm not posting the same thing again in a month

It's very hard, marriage, isn't it. Not sure I like it.

I'm so pleased for you - hopefully you just need to talk talk talk - I really hope you work it out.

Marriage is definitely hard work - sometimes too hard - marriage does have to be worked at but it has to be on both sides. Lets hope that your DH has realised that.

Take care.