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Whirlwind romance - does it ever work?

70 replies

RockinSockBunnies · 02/01/2010 19:52

So, I met a guy Tuesday evening, spent all day Wednesday, Thursday and Friday with him, seeing him again tomorrow.

He's met my daughter, I'm meeting his son tomorrow. My facebook status is suddenly changed to 'in a relationship'.

We've talked about everything under the sun, from stuff I rarely tell anyone, to plans that I have for the future.

Now, I'm spending half the time pinching myself that this is happening. I'm also aware of how ridiculously fast things are progressing. But I'm also extremely happy and love being with him.

Does anyone have any positive stories of relationships that have lasted, having started as a whirlwind romance?

OP posts:
Kaloki · 02/01/2010 20:43

My DP proposed to me after 3 weeks. So yeah I believe it can work

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RockinSockBunnies · 02/01/2010 20:44

Will definitely keep you posted!

OP posts:
beansprout · 02/01/2010 20:49

We knew that we wanted to get married etc within about a fortnight. We decided to actually wait to get married on the basis that we preferred the idea of everyone being happy for us on the day rather than placing bets on how long it would last!!

That was 10 years ago.

I hope it all works out for you both

BEAUTlFUL · 02/01/2010 21:09

Was he Craig David?

onlyjoking9329 · 02/01/2010 21:12

i think whirlwind can work, but like someone else said you have to consider the children, we are not planning to get married just yet and have no plans to live together for a while, but we are so very very happy, and we both feel very lucky.

BitOfFun · 02/01/2010 21:15

pmsl BEAUTIFUL

WhatFuckingYearIsItAnyway · 02/01/2010 21:17

< waves at beautiful >

where you been, not seen you around this festive season...

oops, it's AnyFucker, btw

LibrasBiscuitsOfFortune · 02/01/2010 21:21

My parents met and married within 6 months (Dad second marriage with one DD, Mum first marriage). They are still together 37 yrs later....

Scorpette · 02/01/2010 21:45

My parents fell in love at first sight, got engaged on their second date, got married 9 months to the day they met... and will celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary this summer!

And me and DP met via a mutual friend on Myspace - after only a few months of online chatting, we already knew we'd spend our lives together, before we'd even arranged our first date! 3 years on and things just get better and better. It CAN work. When you 'know', you 'know'! Good luck!

SquirtsMum · 02/01/2010 22:06

Me and Dp had been friends for about a year when i opened my heart up to him about the horrible relationship i was in at the time.... 3 months of support and late night msn chats (300 miles between us).... cue me visiting him for a holiday and realising that on day 2 we were meant to be 4 weeks after coming home found out i was pg and returned to him 5 weeks later.
Just taking each day as it comes (btw just hit 22wks, so early days, but sometimes you just know )

WhatNoLunchBreak · 02/01/2010 22:09

My romance was as whirlwind as it can get, really - and that was coming up for four years ago. We're still together, but had to negotiate the (almost inevitable) arrival of reality after an intense honeymoon period.

This was when we finally started to get to know each other, warts and all (though even warts can be beautiful!); and got to grips with the fact that there was a helluva lot of projection going on in the first couple of years. Only now are we really starting to see the other person for who they are - which is an adventure all by itself, and, imo, a more enriching and rewarding experience, if not always a pain-free one.

I wouldn't have it any other way!

Weeteeny · 02/01/2010 22:32

mine started off a whirlwind much the same as yours, spending almost each available day together, Dh asked me to marry him after two weeks. here we are eight years later, and two DS.
Everyone warned me about him, (reputation as a womaniser etc) but for some reason all that stopped when he met me.

paisleyleaf · 02/01/2010 22:38

I think you know very early on if someone is right for you.
My Dh and I's early days were like yours.

twolittlemonkeys · 02/01/2010 22:43

DH and I met and were friends for 6 months then dated for 3 months before getting engaged and getting married 8 months after that so 17 months between meeting and marrying. 8th wedding anniversary coming up. Now have 2 DS and are more in love than ever [sickeningly cheesy emoticon] I knew he was the one within a couple of dates. So yes, I do believe it can work.

onebatmother · 02/01/2010 22:48

OJ - really so pleased to hear your story.

monkeyfacegrace · 02/01/2010 22:52

I met DP in a nightclub on Friday 4th Jan 2007 10.30pm, he moved in with me that night, started proceedings to buy my ex out of the house the next day, had a 4 hour interview with my mum on the Sunday (passed with flying colours!), met my dd (13 months) the Sunday night when she came home from my exs house.
Was pregnant 8 weeks later.... now happily curled up on the sofa with him rubbing my feet, our two kids sound asleep in bed, and 2 years later I love him to death and we are getting married next year

kormachameleon · 02/01/2010 22:54

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Paolosgirl · 02/01/2010 22:59

Dh and I were engaged after 6 weeks, and married a year later - that was 16 years ago!

MIL and FIL met one summer in Ireland, and engaged after a long weekend. He was in the RAF, so they only saw each other a few times over the following year, and were married a year after they first met. They were together for almost 50 years - he died last year, sadly. It sounds trite, I know, but they were each others soul mates.

I'd echo what Whatnolunchbreak said though - although it was fab, we got to know each other after we were married, and very fortunately still felt the same. It could just as easily have gone the other way though, so just be a wee bit careful

lou33 · 02/01/2010 23:13

i will let you know, its been a couple of weeks for me and we have spent virtually every evening with each other, he has met my kids and they get on better than i could have hoped by any stretch of the imagination (certainly better than any relationship i have taken much more slowly)

thesecondcoming · 02/01/2010 23:22

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poshwellies · 02/01/2010 23:22

Met DP on holiday,he was in RAF and on a night off-me,on a night out with best friend.Left him my email address and he emailed 1 week later saying he was over in the UK and did I want to meet up? .

He went off to Kuwait for 3 months (copious amounts of letter writing and very long distance and infrequent calls).Christmas 1999 he came home to me and we were engaged before he went back to Germany in the January.We were married within 2 yrs,ds was born a year after that.

We've been married 9 years this year and ds is 7.

Soulmates.

poshwellies · 02/01/2010 23:23

Oh and I was a single mother to dd who was 4 at the time.

HairExtensions · 02/01/2010 23:41

I met DH whilst on a girls weekend, he then visited me every weekend for 6 weeks before moving 250 miles to move in with me.

8 years on and 3 DD's, mostly very happy BUT has not been plain sailing all the way as in essence I actually started living with someone before I even knew them properly, and much as we love each other and believe it was "meant to be" a big part of me wishes I had taken things a bit slower - we would still have the end result but it could have saved a lot of problems if we taken more time.

skihorse · 03/01/2010 06:24

My parents met, moved in 2 weeks later, married within 6 months and have been together now 37 years.

I met my bloke online - we decided to move in together a month after we met in person and here I am 18 months later pregnant. I knew what I wanted from a man/relationship and I knew I was prepared to make a sensible, honest, grown-up relationship work.

Scorpette · 03/01/2010 15:43

I echo what Ski says about relationships - me and DP 'knew' straight away but what makes our love so good is that we both knew what we wanted and were ready to make things work. These factors need to be in place as well as the amazing connection if things are going to work out; I bet that in all these tales of 'quick but lasting love', everyone was in 'the right place' mentally and emotionally to create a successful union (ironically, usually when you are happy and confident being single and not looking for love). This was the case in my parents' relationship, as I detailed a few comments ago, and also in both sets of grandparents, who all fell hard and fast for each other as well (family trait?!).

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