I have been in a relationship with a married man who I also work with for the last year. We started our affair when my DH left me. He took advantage of my vunerable state, I was desperate for some love and affection and needed the attention.
He could not get enough of me, even to the extent of almost stalking me. Said his marriage was loveless, I made him feel alive.
He sent texts morning, noon and nite, staying over 3 x week - He left his wife and 2 x DD's in the summer for a week, but when he went home to talk, he never came back.
A week later he started to text again, we started to see each other again.
During our time together he was aggressive, jealous and violent towards me. Told me I was not to speak to any men at work and told me what I was allowed to wear. If men spoke to me at work I would be subjected to verbal and violent abuse when we got home at night.
After the third attack and hiding bruises, I warned him I would tell the Police next time.
He left his wife in August and we have been together until Xmas when after an office party he became drunk and violent towards me because men had talked to me or danced near me, and attacked me on the way home when the Police had to be involved.
That night he returned home to his wife!
The week before Xmas he text me, telling me he loved me, had told his wife this, wanted to be my husband and cud not live without me. Begged me to take him back.
I met him a couple of times after Xmas and we had sex - he went home, returned to his wife and has not been in touch since.
During the 12 month affair he never spent a penny on me. I paid for everything, even a holiday, which on our return, when the plane hit the tarmac, he dumped me and went home! Again a week later, he text and wanted me back.
He even took me to meet his mother for the weekend - sat holding my hand and kissing me in front of her! What was all that about?
I have resigned from my job - I have lost face at work after the party. I have no job, no money and he is back with his wife, still working and no doubt acting like nothing is wrong at all.
I know taking someone's husband was wrong, and even if he text now, I would say come round. I cant help myself! I have lost the plot, why do I want him so bad when he treats me like dirt? I even saw a text message on his blackberry to another women!
Last nite I did'nt think I would survive - a new year's eve totally alone and distraught! I got what I deserve I know, just wish he would too!