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[fuzzymummy]

Hi , I have known my husband for 9 years and shortly before we married he started to push me around . When I was pregnant with the first child it then escalated to the point where I became more scared of him and the pushing led to me falling down a couple of times . Since there has been some hairpulling , an incident with stairs while pregnant with second child and hands around my neck a couple of times . Tonight we are staying in his brothers and have baby 3 in the bed and he spilt some milk and husband thought I was making a fuss and that brother or his wife might come to room so he then thumped me on the back of shoulder then the arm and refused to let me leave the bedroom . Says he will leave me tomorrow but doesn't want a scene . He says I don't show him any respect and called me names .What should I do ? I don't think he will leave tomorrow .

I think you should keep the peace and then speak to Women's Aid in the morning.

Are you in the same room with him now?
Is he asleep? If so, I would take the baby and go downstairs.
Can you confide in your SIL?
Contact Women's Aid in the morning, as BitOfFun suggests.
If you are in immediate danger, pls call the police.
Take care of yourself and your children.

He is asleep now . I confided in my SIL before but she told his brother and then they both came round and talked things over and she said he should get some counselling but he didn't . I knew he wouldn't . I am not in immediate danger and he has never seriously harmed me but I am afraid sometimes.If I contact somebody does that mean I will have to leave or am starting that process . I don;t know whats best .

I don't feel like climbimg into bed and sleeping beside him iYKWIM

I think contacting Women's Aid means that you start talking about a situation in which you find you are frightened. And you can take it from there.

Don't panic. It's not good to be frightened. It is good to acknowledge that this isn't an OK way for him to behave towards you.

Women are very vulnerable in relationships after they have children. If you talk to Women's Aid you will be starting the process of making yourself less vulnerable.

good luck.

If you talk to someone they can give you advice and help you to discuss your options.
No one will make you do anything you don't want to, or that you're not ready for.
It will be helpful to talk it through with someone who is not emotionally involved, and who is experienced in these matters.

I think you need a bit of talking space for yourself, so you can figure out your feelings.

Obviously it's not OK for him to thump you & keep you in the room, but there's a lot of things to consider as you know. Womens Aid is quite a good place to start, they'll have someone who doesn't know you and let you talk properly. You can also ring the Samaritans, they don't tell you what to do either.

There's always someone to listen to you, and this is probably what you need now. I hope you'#re getting some sleep! Hugs ((()))