what would you do?

[spinthedice]

This is genuine- I am a regular who has name changed.

My DH nad I have agreed to separate for a bit (i see it as around 6 months) as I have doubts about staying together- been married for over 20 years.

I have various options, all with pros and cons. Which would you do and why?

1. move out to a flat/house locally and keep current work, which is not enough to support me but will top up with savings.

2.relocate big time anywhere in UK after finding another job.

1. work overseas for a while either as a volunteer or paid work, if I can get it.

1. rent somewhere in a beautiful part of UK and write a book/find myself.

I have savings and can afford to do all, though accept that No 4 is self-indulgent- but please don't take that into account.

have you got children that you need to stay close to ex for? or schools etc

Agree children would have to be main consideration?

Actually sounds lovely to have the options personally I would rent somewhere lovely and write a book. I think I would start with going on holiday or to visit family to start with maybe for the first month then rent somewhere and write a book when my mind was relaxed and start with a clear head.

Not enough info to make a decision.

If you want to separate why are you waiting?

I'm guessing her children are older and can therefore travel on their own to visit?

If kids werent a consideration then I would move somewhere beautiful in the UK, try and get a job, and also write, see how things go, make the choice of where to live based on heart rather than head.

I think you also have to realise that there is a chance that you and your dh might not end up getting back together, and therefore you have to make the right choices now, for what could be the foreseeable future, if not the rest of your life?