I have a very close friend. It's almost like a female crush but in the past she has behaved in ways which I find uncomfortable and I can't trust her 100%. The trouble is it is hard to leave such a close friendship and there are many rthings about her that I like.
What do you think about her behaviours?
She has been out with two of my ex boyfriends. One I did get upset about as I still liked him. The other I didn't care about as he wasn't right for me at all. Or for her for that matter.
Her fiance is an ex boyfriend of her (ex) best friend. He was on the way out and said mate nabbed him. Mabe this is fair enough but I can't help but feel mabe she could hunt further afield. They have a georgeous daughter together.
I think it's the comments that hurt though. When I fell out with dds dad before I got pregnant she told me rather gleefully that men are always nice to me at first then get nasty.
When I gI know it's true but still.When I g
ot pregnant she was happy for me and quite supportive but managed to drop in a comment that dds dad had run off because we had only been together for eight months and it was ''wierd''. One minute he was a single man and the next there was a baby on the way.
I know she has a point and that I wasn't with him for long enough to start a family but it was one of those things, I was thrilled and I needed her support not her derision.
I think that she was jealous at the time as her and her beau had been trying for a few years with no success but I got pregnant quickly. She hgot pregnant soon after me though.
I have started a thread about her partner too who is prone to making mean comments about my single status before and after dd.
When she did get pregnant she was in shock but then it soon degenerated into a competition to see who had the best baby equipment. She was always telling me how cheap she got everything for and she knew as a single mum I am more financially hard up than her.
I guess I am a bit jealous of her. She has the full package. Doting partner, baby and big house but I can't help feeling that she got it by nicking her mate's ex bloke. I guess I feel that she dosn't totally deserve such good luck. It is a mean sentiment I know.
I'd probably be more happy for her if it weren't for the comments.
Should I continue with this friendship? I guess it is competetive and a bit unhealthy but we share a lot of the same interests.Now we both have babies we do hang out and talk babies but I worry it will egt competetive and my jealousy dosn't help.
I guess I feel like she is a man's girl and will always put a bloke first whereas I am definately a girl's girl an dtry not to hurt my girl friends. I love them and don't see them as a threat unless they hurt me.I'm not the perfect mate I know but I do try!
Should I pull her up on her past comments? It might make me feel better about the friendship.