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snogged BIL on xmas night!

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embarrasedandconfused · 27/12/2009 23:53

What the hell do I do now? we were all very drunk! He made a pass at me on the stairs as most people were in bed. I kissed him back vigourously and he stopped and said 'I want to be with you'. I then walked off and got in bed with DH. Obviously I feel embarrassed and disgusted in myself and he text me the next day to say sorry, but it happened do I just brush it under the carpet and forget it? Ive never had feelings for him as he was the stereotypical 'love rat' when SIl met him and I didn't trust him, now ive succumbed to his charms!? WTF???

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coldtits · 27/12/2009 23:55

ignore. Pretend it didn't happen. Pretned it was a dream.

I honestly think that this will be th path of least pain for all

MitchyInge · 27/12/2009 23:56

have you succumbed to his charms? do you want to have an affair with him?

monkeysavingexpertdotcom · 27/12/2009 23:56

Agree with Coldtits. Didn't happen. Ignore, don't let it happen again.

mrsboogiefairylights · 27/12/2009 23:57

please see answer on identical thread...

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embarrasedandconfused · 28/12/2009 00:00

Will do, erased from brain! Bloody alcohol, I honestly think thats all it was bloody shameful though.

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MitchyInge · 28/12/2009 00:03

so you don't fancy him at all?

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embarrasedandconfused · 28/12/2009 00:03

excellent answer mrsboogie. That would be ridiculous. He probably is a love rat still and I stumbled past him when no one was around, poor SIL, I hope he doesn't sleep around im glad I walked away and he was man enough to say sorry. I won't be thinking of him as I can see him for what he is as for me.. time to detox me thinks! bloody xmas

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embarrasedandconfused · 28/12/2009 00:05

In all honesty a little tiny bit of me has thought 'whats all the fuss about' as he's nothing to look at and soooo not my type but gift of the gab is an understatement and alcohol fuelled my tiny bit of curiosity.

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InMyLittleHead · 28/12/2009 00:09

You were pissed, don't worry about it. Don't do it again and don't tell anyone.

jasper · 28/12/2009 00:11

alcohol.
That's what it was.
forget about it

JodieO · 28/12/2009 00:14

Is alcohol a vaild excuse then? If a dp/dh said this, would it be ok? I just don't think that something would happen "just" because of alcohol.

jasper · 28/12/2009 00:15

Yes .
and yes.

Twinkleandpearls · 28/12/2009 00:15

I agree JodieO

JodieO · 28/12/2009 00:18

jasper why? I wouldn't think it was ok to do that, not at all, and if I couldn't control myself after drinking then Id be wondering why and stop drinking!

BananaPudding · 28/12/2009 00:21

If my dh kissed my sister and then pleaded alcohol...He wouldn't get far with it. I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but no one has a bit of sympathy for your bil (calling him names, inferring that he cheats) and all he did was snog you! So either both guilty or both innocent as I see it.

whifflegarden · 28/12/2009 03:19

I'm with Jodie and banana on this one I'm afraid. So no helpful advice from me

dippymummyto2boys · 28/12/2009 13:26

I would stop drinking for good tbh

morningpaper · 28/12/2009 13:31

agree, forget about it, was drunken silliness

"I want to be with you" haha he does sound good at charming the laydeez

Rebeccadiamond · 28/12/2009 13:52

The country is full of people at the moment regretting what they did at the office party or Christmas do, or at the end of a drunken night. Yes, it was wrong. Yes, you are being a bit unfair blaming him for it as you responded and he was probably as drunk. But move on, it's best forgotten .

morningpaper · 28/12/2009 17:24

absolutely Rebecca

Personally I don't consider myself really accepted into the faaaamily unless I've snogged a sibling

FabHasHadALovelyXmas · 28/12/2009 18:23

Stop with the dramatics, make it clear it can not happen again and grow up.

sarah293 · 28/12/2009 18:42

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EdgarAleNPie · 28/12/2009 18:51

morningpaper

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embarrasedandconfused · 28/12/2009 23:37

all over, calmed down. Moved on! cheers ladies

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