Hello, it's me again posting about another aspect of my dreadful relationship with dh.
I'm sick of rationalising all his behaviour in my head with "oh but I do this to him"... Maybe I do but that still doesn't change the fact that he is a very critical person. If he criticises and I respond then it becomes an argument, if I don't respond then I fume about it internally...
What do you do if you are unlucky enough to live with a difficult person (sometimes come up with an unkinder set of adjective and noun!) like I do???
It's getting to the point where we are getting at each other so much that if it weren't for ds I would definitely no longer be here. I get no sustenance from this relationship and neither does he I think... Then again we would probably be getting at each other less if we didn't have ds - I would be working and feeling more independent and we wouldn't be having the power struggle we sometimes do about him.
I feel that I work really hard with ds but that none of it gets noticed... I'm sick of being Mrs Invisible... I feel tired and powerless.
I so desperately would like our relationship to be different but then he'll say something that really annoys me and I go back to sulking... I feel unattractive and undesired and I'm fed up. There, sorry for unloading in this manner but I guess that's what this site is for.
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arabella2 · 08/06/2003 13:04
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