At PIL's now and been here since yesterday and every time I hope things will be different. I am increasingly getting to the stage where I do not want to talk to my FIL at all. It is not helped by the house being cold and I mean cold - like 10 degrees in our bedroom with 2 children under 2 and having to use electric heaters to get the room just up to 16 degrees. They have pots of money but "he doesn;t feel the cold" so hey no one else does so there is no heating in the rest of the house apart from an open fire in one room. Every time you ask him anything you get the "are you thick or what" type of response, what you do want to do that for, you know nothing etc etc. I am royally fed up of it. They came to help when we had our second child in may (ok yes they helped) but he was a pain in the arse the whole time - not closing doords, making a song and dance about putting the stairgate on, criticising how i parent and saying "i hope the children inherit your father's personality". I used to like him, used to think he could be amusing but now I think he is a bully who can criticise everyone else but never see any of his own failings. My confidence has gone seriously downhill in recent years partly as a result of his jibes and nastiness.