Christmas message for anyone in an unhappy relationship

[Rebecca41]

I just thought I'd post this, as I read so much in this forum about the miserable situations people are in, often looking for the strength to get away.

I'm a single parent. Long story. My heart broke when my relationship ended, but I soon realised it was for the best.

Now I am really happy. Tomorrow, I will spend Christmas day with my 2 boys, just the 3 of us. There'll be no fighting (other than 4-year-old-on-chocolate-high squabbles), we'll eat rubbish when we want, and play all day.

So for the people who are desperately unhappy but worried about being alone, I can tell you that Christmas as a single parent can be great!! Don't put up with crap because you feel you have to.

I'll second that!

I kicked my H out 6 weeks ago, and although life is a bit crap I know I am on the right road now.

H coming round to see kids for 1 hour tomorrow but apart from that the day is all ours with no stress or atmosphere and I cant wait

Happy xmas!

Aww good for both of you. I'm v happy with DH but it's good to hear that people are going on with their lives happily whatever is thrown at them.

I'm having Christmas on Boxing Day! Ex insisted on spending Christmas with DC, so at 4pm we are driving 240 miles to my parents' house. On Boxing Day my sister and her family are coming round and my REAL Christmas starts then. The kids are happy, they get two Christmas Days! While they have lunch with Dad, I'm going to visit my friend in hospital, we can then cheer each other up.

Lilac that's a lovely thing to be doing.

This year H & I are gritting teeth and doing it together for DS.

Don;t know what next year will bring.

Have a Happy Christmas everyone

I am on my own on Christmas for the 1st time in 10 years, it sucks at the moment but I know it's for the best in the long term. This is what I tell myself as the tears stream down my face, it will get easier. Christmas and New Year are the hardest, well, I hope they are because I don't think I can take much more than this!

Sorry for the woe is me post - it's better I write here than text ex-p, I hope you understand where I am coming from.

Bisto, (((hugs)))) hun I feel the same. it's soooo hard not to text. i'm just putting in a front for dc but my heart isn't really in it this year. i think it's the idea that it's a family time is what makes it hardest, as we are still grieving for the family we thought we would have.

here's to 2010 instead, and building ourselves new lives xox