get me out of here!

[fostermum]

i have got the offer of leaving a marraige that is over behind to go to another country,start up a business with an old friend who i was engaged too,no strings attached, i would have some where to live a job too do,do i take it?my kids are welcome to join me and they have the promise of a job,but there all fighting with there partners and it makes me so sad,should i stay and help them or go and do my own thing im totally lost

you need to follow yr heart. personally i would go, you are nt going to be desserting yr kids because they have the chance to go with you and even if they dont you are only on the end of the phone.

you need to start living yr life for you. be happy

you have given your kids the best years of your life and filled there lives with love and support you now need to think of yourself and live your dream, if this is what you want go for it

Follow your heart......

what does it tell you you want?

to go home which is where it would be,start living at last but with my babys with me, dont think i could leave them,but half wanna come half dont,it seems i can stay with them and be sad or go and miss them

I would go, it would be a lovely new start and although you would miss your kids they would always visit im sure and it would be a lovely escape for them if and when they needed it! and if it didnt work out becasue you missed them too much or for any reason, you could always come back! xxx

You need to trust in yourself, you've devoted your life to your children but now its time too think of you, (im assuming your children are all adults)

You have too choices:

1. stay here in an unhappy marraige, always wondering 'what if' perhaps feeling resentful at opportunties lost

or

2. take a deep breath and spread your wings, take a chance of happiness whilst you can, grow and change and find you

and is it that easy i wonder just to start all over again?

Think outside of your own emotions....insecurity, apperhension, sadness, excitement.....etc.

Rely on the facts & view your situation as you would If it were a dear friend going through it...

What would you tell her to do?