I know there is already a thread about men with aspergers but I'm not entirely sure that my DP has it. I have always thought he was selfish, ignorent and sometimes just quite mean but when I was reading the other thread, it made me realise he displays all the signs.
He just doesn't listen for a start. I could be telling him something and he'll just say "yeah" mid sentance or close his eyes and nod his head and say "umm" as if he just wants me to shut up. It really, really annoys me because it comes across as being so ignorent.
Sometimes he'll just say the most innapropriate thing or change the subject when I'm talking. For instance:
-- "I was thinking, after we go to the chinese place we could ... "
and he will butt in suddenly with "You bum looks so sexy in those jeans".
Again, it comes across as ignorent, as if he has no interest in what I say.
He's the same with DD.
He'll be sat watching TV and she will rush over and say "hey dad look! I got a certificate at school today!" and he will close his eyes and say "yes" in a really bored voice.
Other issues is that he doesn't seem to notice the world around him. DD was going out at the weekend and she stood at the door and said "right, I'm off now".
DP ignored her.
--- "Dad, I'm going ... "
(no response)
--- "DAD! bye ... "
(DP) "I wonder if its windy enough for that fence to fall down?"
---- "For gods sake!! DAD... hello??? I have to go!"
(no response)
--- "look, i'm going, they're waiting for me. cya"
(DP "I'll have to take a look at the fence in morning")
DD sighs, leaves and slams the door.
Still no responce from DP who is sat there obviously still pondering about the plight of the fence. 15 minutes later ...
(DP "I wonder what time 'Sarah' is going out")
me -- "what?? she went ages ago!"
(DP "Did she??? when??")
me -- "She was stood there right in front of you telling you she ws going for ages!! you ignored her!!"
(DP "but I didn't hear her! has she really gone?"
Its so frustrating. In a way I want to believe there is a reason for it because half the time I feel like just walking out. Its like he's so pre-occupied with his own agenda, he doesn't give a shit about anyone else.