no sex = over?

[sleeplessinseatle]

My husband doesnt want to have sex with me anymore or even kiss with tongues and I don't think I can cope with this anymore.

Am very scared our marriage isnt going to last. Can't believe I am admitting this. But maybe now I can do something. Just don't know what. Has anyone else been through this?

alypaly, does your boyfriend live with you? From what you have said, I would end the relationship. I appreciate that if you share a home, and/or there are children involved, it's not as easy as that.

no he doesnt. There isnt even a shirt in the wardrobe. We sort of drifted together when i was really ill with pneumonia abot 12 years ago and we have drifted ever since. He still (embarreassed to admit it) lives with his mum and was 50 in october. He doesnt want to live with anyone and is quite happy living with his elderly mum (79) I think he is actually stuck in a rut ( a 50 year old one) and now i feel stuck in a 12 eyar rut. Dont know how to meet someone new and am a bit scared to loose my best friend.

NO ,no children lilac...but we did try years ago. I ha=ve 2 from my previous relationship but they are 17 and nearly 22

SolidGoldpiginablanket,

I could do that, but to me having sex = making love.

If I tried that I'd end up falling in love, or feel something was wrong having sex with someone I didn't love.

Perhaps there is no answer but I should carry on as I see right which at the moment means waiting cos I love DP.

I hope DP changes, but I don't see much chance of of for a while yet. I think a lot of it is down to stress on DP, and you know stress is a passion killer.

DP did used to shout at me that I was with the wrong person, but that was years ago, and I KNOW DP loves me.

All that said, if I was tempted, I can be weak sometimes, but that only hurt me in the past, lucky I'm not young & gorgeous any more! Perhaps sometimes there is no answer.