moan about DH, he is 80% my perfect man but...

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the other 20% is awful
he can be so thoughtless about other peoples feelings (including mine)
So today because he said happy birthday to me at 12.30am as I had D&V he thought that meant he didn't need to say happy birthday when we got up.
I felt like shit but got up and made porridge for everyone and the children said happy birthday, but he didn't, when I nudged him he said I already said Happy birthday this morning.
I couldn't eat anything this morning so thought I could open some birthday cards at the table, when I asked him if I had any cards he got in such a grump.. stropped off and bought back some cards and a couple of pressies and literally dumped them on the table. I just wanted to cry, I thought that some birthday wishes may make me feel better but the way they were delivered just made me feel worse.

so I have been really quite poorly today and he has taken over the childcare etc for which I am truly grateful but when I joked and said, bet you were planning something special for tonight that I have ruined by being poorly... he said no nothing why?

I sound like a spoilt princess stamping her feet

He sounds like a miserable wanker, unless you know you can be a spoilt princess stamping her feet.

also, why make porridge, is this the first time he spoilt a special occasion and what is D&V?

Diarhoea and vomiting

He sounds like an arse, if he bahvaes like this I can;t imagine the other 80% being perfect.

have just tried to talk to him about it and apparently I am being unreasonable.
It isn't his fault that when he woke up he saw that his wife who had been poorly in the night was up and getting things sorted - which meant that he too had to get out of bed.
So when he came down stairs and saw that I had made porridge he just wanted to sit and eat it.

curse of the male rational mind.

You are up, you are making porridge, clearly you are not ill. Ill people don't get up and make porridge. Oh look! Porridge! I'll eat that before it goes cold.

I know and he is very much of an engineering/techy mind

However just as a further rant, he is now stropping round the kitchen and although I have tried to fix it he has said that I shouldn't try, he will feel less upset with me in the morning.

H has no right to be upset with you. Ignore his stupid stropping.

Hmmm- are you sure he's your perfect man?

he's still stropping with you even though it's your birthday?? (happy birthday btw..!)

Sounds a bit childish to me, and a bit reminiscient of H. An occasion wasn't worth celebrating unless it was about him..

see this is the thing. He IS lovely I am being more rational today, He never has ever done mornings well, needs a cuppa before he can converse like an human being. Why would my birthday be any different?

He has been fab this morning (after a cuppa)I was just having a whinge.. thanks for listening..