Question: Is it ever a good idea to keep in touch with an ex when your other half is not keen on the idea?
Scenario - b/f has an ex from a few years ago who is now married in Australia. However, last year when he got made redundant she got in touch and now they've been in touch ever sense. He mentioned to me back in Jan that she had got in touch with him but just a few emails and that was it. Well what a lie! They've been in touch all year, he's confided personal things about me with her and emails her apparently most days. I'm shocked! I don't keep in touch with mine so can't understand the need to do so? I'm really un comfortable with all of this, whilst I don't think they'll run off together, he doesn't seem to think he's done anything wrong. It's like they have a secret friendship and I'm not even convinced her husband knows about it. I only found out by accident - my bf was never ever going to tell me.
He is now defending their 'friendship' and tells me I'm acting crazy or I'm mental.
So what do I do? Email her and make the peace? I'm quite annoyed I have to be the adult here and work things out. Accept they will always be in touch forever more and continue to feel like there are 3 of us in the relationship? I can't put my foot down - I would want him to respect my feelings and stop himself but he's made that clear that he'll lie to me and continue on with it.
Help?