My DH is a wonderful sensitive generous man but has the tendency to not be very bothered and not make a huge effort with friends. I think it's partly laziness partly a real sense of no enough self-worth having been bullied at school, been a bit of a geek and had supposedly close friends shit on him in the past (his best man pulled out a month before our wedding).
He makes friends easily once he gets over his shyness but just doesn't put the effort into keeping them. All our friends are or originally were my friends. I try to encourage him to meet up with so and so, take him to our get togethers with my local mums - I guess it's seeing their husbands in the same situation but much more socially confident that makes me worry for my DH. Whenever we have get togethers, he becomes a truly doting daddy, I know he's hiding behind DS.
I'd leave well alone but I know it does upset him that he doesn't get texts/phonecalls/fb messages etc but I also know that's down to him not making an effort back.
What can I do to drag him out of this social downward spiral, or shall I leave him alone and not expect him to be like me, desperate to constantly be surrounded by friends?!