Please need your point of view. I cant take it anymore.

[Haveenough]

Hi all,
Please at first let me apoligize for the bad english as I'm spanish.

I have been with dh for 7 years, 3 years married and we have 2 ds.

2 years ago, I took on chilminding as previous job wouldnt allow me to come back part time (nevermind I love children anyway).

I have a decent salary and no childcare to pay. dh has a decent salary too.

I really work my arse off and do a good job but I have the feeling to be really taken for granted.
Me
I 'm looking after our children
I'm earning a salary
I'm doing all the cleaning during the week (we have a cleaner on friday but the house get trashed every day)
Every year we go to Spain as its cheap for us as we go to scroungeto my parents
I'm never taken out by dh
He never wants to have sex
Work from 7.45 till 6 full time
I do the boys bath

He
Leaves at 8 and come back at 6.30
Does occasionaly the washing dishes
Rarely cook a meal as it will cost too much money for the type of food he wants to cook
Doesnt feel its necessary to do any celebration unless I have another child to look after so it means I earn more money
Never want to have sex
If I want anything, I 'll hear "are we millionnaire?"
If I'm stressed and let him now, he says oh dont worry, I'll give you a massage and will give you bonk (patronizing hey and it never happens anyway)

Sorry I'm in bad state, however I hope you understand.

hola, I might not be the right person to give advice as I am going through the same pain and depressed and frustrated , but I do know what is good for us when we do not have it , yes you are a mother , a childminder , a wife but above all you are a human being and a woman that is it , when you do your weekly job that earns you money every saturday , put money aside ; get yourself a new outfit I MEAN LINGERIE DRESS SHOES BAG AND HAIR find a friend to go to the movies or to the pub/Iif he asks tell him it is your me and sex timeand do not pick fights , will see if he still leaves in planet F*$ùé"è-(''"è- lunatic like the rest of his piers

He IS being very patronising isn't he?

Is he British, or Spanish? If he's English, it sounds like he's fallen into the habit of being one of those lazy types... and it also sounds like he needs to be taught how to treat a woman tbh... He sounds a little chauvinistic too...

Do YOU want to have sex with him? If so, I think the suggestion by maeggee sounds not a bad idea... make him notice you, wrap him around your little finger, seduce him and regain control.

Think you need to get all fiery and latin on his sorry arse!! Seems a shame to waste your genes!