Handling the aftermath of an argument/disagreement|

[gingerbreadlatte]

Hi

When I fall out with DH or friends I really struggle to sit it out whilst the other party calms down. I tend to panic a bit that there is bad feeling lingering and feel the need to seek reassurance that we are still friends (sounds so childish!). However 9 times out of 10, things blow over and everything will be fine that the other person/s will soon calm down and forget things.

Everytime DH and I fall out he likes to sulk have time to calm down and I really have to stop myself trying to make up too soon. Even when I wait its usually too soon and not accepted.

This has arisen after a silly fall out with a group of friends that i've not known that long. Its not even a proper fall out - one lady has got stressed about something, sent unpleasant emails and quite rightly she should be left to stew and possibly apologise but Im feeling edgy about it am trying not to ring up or email to make things better.

How does everyone else handle it. Really need some tips here because my reactions are doing me any favours!!

Sounds like you're naturally diplomatic. Maybe you should say to your DH, I'll be ready to make up when you are, and then leave him to it next time this arises. Hopefully it isn't too frequent an event or I could imagine it becoming wearing?

With your friends, if you're sure she's wrong, I'd hang back and wait for her to make the first move. It's not your responsibility to sort out everyone else's childish behaviour, leave her to it or you'll end up stuck in the middle unnecessarily.