DSS is friend-requesting me on facebook WWYD?

[Jujubean77]

I am very reluctant to accept him. Not because I dislike him, but for a Privacy issue; much as I like him I just don't want to be privvy to the stuff he is getting up to first year at uni lol. It would actually make me feel uncomfortable to know about his personal life the way facebook is with teens.

Similarly there are things in my goings on I don't feel he needs to have access to. But I really don't want to give out the wrong message to him in ignoring, he may take it as I don't want to be his friend...

I'm amazed he's asking you, tbh! My sons have both dropped me, and now my 17 year old neice has also realised it's not a good idea letting me see her antics!

Can you talk to him about it? It may be that he feels he has to ask you?

I dont have my mum or MIL for that reason. I just said I like to keep my facebook for friends rather than family i can just see or call if needed HTH

FACEBOOK IS EVIL

I don't have my dsd for much the same reasons.

I have told her (and it is true) that I use facebook to keep in touch with friends that i don't get to see face to face very often (old uni friends etc)

she si ok with htat (although as she is nosy is actually a bit gutted that I haven't added her, but what can she say?)

IT IS!

But how do I handle this?

If you must FB shrug - then what the wise posters have said. Tell him how honoured you are to have been asked, but that it's not appropriate for family in your view + the generational mix may be uncomfortable. And agree another way of keeping in touch while he's at uni, like regular emails or something, so he doesn't feel abandoned. You'll know he's settled down when he stops contacting you more than once a term!

Had Dsis giving me a serious earful a couple of years ago because DB refused to add her to his LiveJournal (which I regard, probably wrongly, as a sort of up-market FB). I pointed out that I wasn't on his LJ either. Kind of took the wind out of her sails as she was quite convinced, as usual, that it was all about excluding HER. I am very fond of my bro and he posts me occasional extracts of his and his friends' LJ which he thinks will amuse me, but I really don't feel the need to be his online chum.

My kids are all on my friends list, along my husband (their step dad). I also have several of their friends on my list too.

I have my profile set to show only limited information about my activities to some of those people and also I have it set to not show so much of their activity ie "more" of the friends I want to keep up with.

I must admit I do quite like being able to see some of things my kids are up to every now and then and see thir status messages, they make me smile.

My Ds is on my friends list, I post nothing on there that he should not see, and if he posts something that I maybe shouldn't see then thats his bad!

Could you suggest that he (and you for that matter) have two facebook profiles - one for friends and one for family.

what interests one group won't the other - and the family one can be a nice way to post silly little messages to keep in touch while he's away, you won't get to see all the scary stuff he;s up to, just a nice edited version

Thank you all for your comments x