Families/Christmas ... yada, yada, yada...

[luckyblackcat]

DH working in USA at mo, sent me email today stating that his mother is going to his london sister and her family Xmas eve and his Manc sister and her family will be driving to London sister's house on Xmas day.

His mother and Manc sister will then come back to his mother's house on Boxing day, we may visit them the day after boxing day.

Now, despite the fact I can think of many, many things I would rather do on Christmas day, I feel quite hurt on bahalf of my 2 DC that they have not been invited to the family Christams get together - they love their 5 cousins and would be very hurt to think they are not invited.

Am I being over sensitive or is this ok?

No, this is good - you get to do your own thing with no annoying visitors or drives across town. I think there are many posters on here who would be delighted to be in your shoes.

Won't your kids be happy playing with their Christmas presents anyway?

I wouldn't be upset I were you - you are still invited after all.

Yes, we are invited but not whole family will be to what we are invited to.

There is mucho boring backstory to this, our dc treated very differently to all others etc MIL not being keen on me as we lived together, had a dc and then got married - all rest of family vv pious.

Also I am a veggie and they never make anything I can eat if we go to mil's either.

Am quite please in a way, they do not open presents until after Tea Time and that may be more than my ds can handle.

I am anticipating lounging in my PJs and having hot choc with my neighbours.

For the last 5years all have come to us for one day (boxing or day after) as we can sit everyone in the same room for lunch (at mils in two rooms some way apart, dc in one adults in other although I usually sit with the dc as ds is young)and big sitting room etc, I am also a good cook entertainer and we are fun and have a great time.

DD and I go to huge efforts to make fun things to do with treasure hunts, quizzes and stuff - this year we have made a golden pumpkin trophy and made up little packs of pumpkin seeds, instruction and plant labels for all 14 of them so we can have a whole family pumpkin growing contest. We did Sunflowers last year. Some peoples idea of not fun I suppose, but they normally all sit silently at the table eating - no conversation at all. Have to hand out the sunflower trophy by proxy!