I feel awful and need to write it down. Not sure why.

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Regular poster but I've namechanged! Does the fact I know about the bat help.

Last week I got drunk with a colleague at a work function and we admitted to one another that we fancy each other.

I don't remember the entire conversation due to the booze - I know it was quite intense but I know we both said we would never do anything about it because we are both happily married.

Everything with the colleague has been fine and professional since but I feel absolutly terrible about even having the conversation.

It's not the first time I've been drunk and embarresing with this person and with christmas socials coming up I'm worried about doing it again!

Anyway, I'm not sure why I've put this on here - I guess i just needed to share.

Yes I know I'm horrible!

why are you horrible? neither of you intend to do anything about it, so what's the problem? I can apprecaite you might feel a bit embarrassed about 'fessing up to them, but that's the end of it - isn't it???

well i guess the obvious answer is to avoid the rest of the christmas dos. or avoid him. or don't get drunk.

at least you didn't do anything, but be wary of any further convos with him as if one of you changed your minds about being happily married it could end up going somewhere.

it's not a crime to fancy other people, but don't let yourself get in to the situation where you might be tempted to take it further.

The problem with articulating it while you're drunk is that it can easily turn into more cos of the frisson of excitement and the lack of inhibition due to the alcohol.

Stay away from too much alcohol at the parties - it is within your control.

I think I would feel guilty if I had done this too, it is OK to fancy other people when you're in an exclusive relationship but to actually vocalise these feelings, especially, to the person concerned, does take things to another level.

The thing to do now is avoid this chap as much as possible and don't EVER have anymore of these kinds of chats with him. It was mistake, put it behind you, forget about it because nothing more is going to come of it, is it?

I do this every year, with the same guy

But it's fine. It's the booze talking, you aren't really going to launch into a sordid affair.

Just remember how lucky you are to have your DH and forget the drunken nonsense.

It's fine to fancy people.

Don't fret about it. Just stay sober or stay away.