I separated from by exh officially about a year ago. We still carried on living together as he claimed it was impossible for him to move out couldn't afford it etc.
While we were together he was unfaithful to me many, many times, was verbally and emotionally and sometimes physically abusive and basically spent 7 years of marriage making me feel as unwanted and unloved as possible. He also has a drink problem.
I asked him to move out many times and he wouldn't, I actually ended up having a nervous breakdown. I am still not entirely over this but am copiing better.
He still refuses to move out. I have now met someone else, we are only really seeing each other as friends. Exh knows about this and has escalated his verbal abuse and made veiled references to "ending" me. He denies that this means he is threatening me with violence. He has always done this made threats, insults, abusive comments and then denied them. He constantly makes comments about my parenting, we ran out of milk a few mornings ago and he said this was because I am not looking after my kids properly now that I am going out more and having a social life. He calls me disgusting names and says that nothing he did while we were married mean't anything. He says we are breaking up because of me being unfaithful, it is as though his behaviours mean nothing and he is completely entitled to have behaved like that. It makes me feel like I am going mad.
I am at my wits end. I don't feel I will ever be free of this man. He just will NOT move out and I don't know where to go from here.