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While we are on the subject......How many 1 night stands have you had and...

40 replies

TLESinChristmasStockings · 01/12/2009 16:44

Have you ever met up with anyone soley for the purpose of having sex?

did you regret it or not?

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DONTtouchMUMSspecialJUICE · 01/12/2009 18:20

if it lasts for a several days does it count?

cyteen · 01/12/2009 18:21

Definitely!

I had three in one week once, that was a special birthday

OtterInaSkoda · 01/12/2009 18:21

I can't remember

SolidGoldBangers · 01/12/2009 18:25

I think 4 in one night was my record.

TLESinChristmasStockings · 01/12/2009 18:29

I think one of my best was with a guy i met online and new from when he was 18...we finally met 6 yrs later and hell that was hell of a night and following morning

he drove from wales to london to meet me lol so it was never going anywhere

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poshsinglemum · 01/12/2009 18:43

I'm no angel- I've had lots but not out of choice. People always look down on me when I tell them but I always WANTED the man to call me. It wasn't my fault that they didn't. If you sleep with someone and they don't call you it's a one night stand isn't it? It dosn't mean that you didn't want more.

However, I did tend to sleep with people too soon in the relationship and I had chronic self esteem issues. They generally make you feel like crap and I havn't had one for three years and hopefully won't again. I wouldn't recommend them. Having said that I have had casual sex that has made me feel great because that's what I was looking for.

Just make sure he wears a condom.

sunburntats · 01/12/2009 18:47

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austinsmam · 05/12/2009 06:57

I am with Poshsinglemum, i always hoped they would call too. And mostly they were after drug or substance fueled nights.

thesunshinesbrightly · 05/12/2009 07:08

Seven

ParanoidAtAllTimes · 05/12/2009 07:18

5, yes and no

Agreed that you have to be going into these things not wanting anything serious or it'll lead to upset

skihorse · 05/12/2009 07:35

I'm surprised so many of you are only admitting to 5!

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 05/12/2009 16:15

I think almost all apart from my first boyfriend started as one night stands (inc DH) but I carried on seeing a few of them. Proper one night stands I don't know exactly - about 15? I regret two, maybe 3 of them. I have met up with someone for sex a few times, two separate people actually. Was fine.

My single sex life seems so far back in the past I no longer remember half the stuff I did or people I shagged!

Tamz77 · 05/12/2009 19:56

I went through a phase of organising one-night stands with guys I'd meet online.

I'd been single for nearly 4 years, and had one night off a week (3pm - 9am) when DS was at his father's. The rest of the week I had DS, so despite craving adult company (and sex) there was no way I could formulate a proper relationship, even if I wanted one.

I honestly thought it might work for me, I'd never 'done' casual sex when I was younger/a student and thought maybe it could fit my life and needs as they were at the time.

So I did this a few times, they were OK fun-wise but fundamentally lacking in heart, passion, intensity. Maybe too formulaic.

I got one pest-ish guy, harmless and silly really, he was probably the most fun sex-wise but kept ringing and texting, annoying but easy enough to ignore. He was younger than me and I don't think quite grasped that you can't just pop over for a cosy adult evening with someone who has a kid to feed bath and bed.

I met one who was good fun, but a bit down on women and relationships. We had a good date/night together. Then he got in touch and rather weirdly invited me on a winter's walk across a giant bridge - ?! - and I thought, cripes, I wonder if he wants to push me off, or if he's suicidal or something. Anyway, after this bizarre 2nd date idea which we never got as far as discussing he disappeared from contact, phew.

I also met a guy who had a teeny penis. Sorry, I know you're not meant to comment, and that it's not supposed to matter if he's got a good heart etc etc. But it was literally the size of my little finger, I was disappointed and the sex wasn't great. He was rather uptight too and e-mailed me after our night together saying "I don't want a relationship with you but wondered if you'd be interested in meeting regularly for sex?" I didn't respond.

Those were the most memorable. Sad eh. The overall feeling I got from one night stands was that it was a lot of effort for little reward, there's no real connection with someone you don't know, even if the sex scratches an itch, and I eventually decided I'd rather spend my night off going to see a film with a big bar of toblerone and then coming home and reading a book and finally getting an unbroken night's sleep.

And now I don't get any nights off as ds's father is no longer around so I've gone from part-time promiscuity to full-time celibacy.

Can do without now. Getting old...

Lapsedrunner · 05/12/2009 20:02

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HerBeatitude · 05/12/2009 20:14

God yes I once met a bloke solely for the purpose of having sex.

It was farking brilliant. I met him several times afterwards and always had excellent sex with him. I can't think why I lost touch with him, extremely careless of me...

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