DH and I have had a huge row. I'm not sure what to do.
DH was made redundant a few weeks ago. I was on maternity leave but last month left my job and started to do freelance work 1 day a week, which is quite well paid. We are living in a rented house after selling our house last year and I have a sizable inheritance which means we, luckily, have plenty of money in the bank so we aren't in as desperate position as some.
But things are still stressful. The problem is DH is so negative about everything (always has been). He has been very proactive about applying for jobs but is convinced he won't get any of them. He was on fairly good money but says that the only job he can possibly get will be for about half that. If I tell him to aim a little higher he tells me that I'm being unrealistic and putting too much pressure on him.
He doesn't actually like the job he does, which he has been doing for 15 years and kind of fell into it after University. he is very clever and talented and, quite frankly, is wasted. He has been making sideways moves now for years and his colleagues seem to get younger and less experienced all the time. He wants to move into something different that he would enjoy more which I am fully behind. I have told him that he doesn't have to rush in to take the first job he is offered and he can take some time to work out what he wants his next move to be.
The trouble is he keeps coming up with impractical ideas. The one he had tonight is that he would go back to University and do another undergraduate degree. When I asked him how we would pay for it he said 'it would cost about £20k'. I would have to go back to work full time which I really don't want to do when my children are so small and, even when he finished, he would still have an entry level position on less money than he has been on previously.
We wouldn't be able to get a mortgage as I don't have a permanent job so we would be stepping off the housing ladder for 4 years, or buying a much smaller house than I would like so we didn't have a mortgage.
It turned into a huge row over my parents' inheritance as, to me, it is there to give us some security and give me the option of not having to work when my children are small .... not to allow him to go off and change careers because he doesn't like his job.
He got all huffy and stroppy and just said 'well, you've made your position perfectly clear, I'll forget it'. Then he says he'll have to get a job in a call centre instead.
I feel like one of us is being a spoilt brat and I don't know which one. .
He is refusing to talk to me now and claims to just want to watch TV.
I am miserable.