Have I been used ??? ANSWER QUICKLY PLEASE

[ConfusedALittleBit]

Hello Mumsnetters. I am not a mother but I would like to hear everyones opinions. I am an 18yr old student at the moment.

About 2 weeks ago I split up with my boyfriend of 2 years because he ended up getting physical with me.

I have liked a bloke for about 6 weeks now and I know he's liked me because I allways catch him looking at me when he thinks Im not looking. We went out on a date on Friday and ended up going home and sleeping together, I know it wasnt the best thing to do. In the morning we chatted and didnt really mention the night before but he gave me a kiss goodbye. Then i text him asking him what was going on and he text back saying he wants to go out n that but he doesnt want a relationship and then came round today and he's been here most of the night. We've chatted quite a bit but im confused i dont 1know whats going on. I dont want a relationship but i would like to keep seing him.

From your experiences what do you think he wants??

Sex.

What do you want?

Probably the same as you - "I dont want a relationship but i would like to keep seing him." Can't you just have fun without getting worried about whether or not it's "a relationship"? Being careful, of course. I feel for you; I'd hate to be 18 again

He wants to hear your views on the conflict in the middle east and whether there will ever be lasting peace.

You broke up with a long term boyfriend 2 weeks ago and then had a one night stand, I'm no mind reader but I am guessing he wants to have lots of sex.

If that's what you want, go for it, but don't kid yourself that this will develop into anything more than that, you blew that by whipping your knickers off on the first date.

He will never respect you.

FFS if he doesn't respect her he shouldn't respect himself either.
Confused: 'I don't want a relationship' often means 'I don't want to be monogamous'. If he's up front about it, then you have the choice of either accepting it or moving on. TBH if you like him and he likes you and the sex is enjoyable then there is no reason not to carry on enjoying it, unless you are someone who finds it difficult to separate sex from long-term committed relationships.

Just keep him as a friend?

Or sleep with him when the it takes either of your fancy?

What do you want?

I'm old me. But I'd like to think you'd have more respect for yourself. .

Depends what you want. Don't have anything that you don't want or can't handle.

Good luck.

DON'T BE USED!!! Sorry for caps couldn't resist it.

*Don't let him make you feel used.

bump.

Come on ladies.

[before op does something she regrets]

He wants something casual.

If you want that too then fabulous, go for it.

I would suggest that at 18, 2 weeks after coming out of a 2 year long relationship that being on your own and enjoying whatever attention you get from this man so long as you were both happy with it being that way you're dealing with it the best way you could do.

You're 18!! Enjoy yourself

(And use condoms)

Are we now a random advice site for anyone who posts with an issue?

I find it a bit to have a demand for a 'quick' answer from a new member/non-parent for this sort of 'dilemma'.

OP... why are you here on mumsnet asking these questions? Genuine question, coz it seems a strange place for an 18 year old to think of.

Don't get hurt though.

And be confident in with your decision.

[another long in the tooth emoticon]

OP may have googled something and arrived here. That's how I found 'here' when I was packing a bag for a holiday!

She might want to ask a mum sort of thing?

just have fun, but be careful etc.Take it one day at a time and enjoy yourself.How would an 18 year old without child even know about this site?

I think she is in the right place....come on now!!!!! We are mums and have more experience in life, right? There is nothing wrong in seeking advice!

Exactly Iva

She's gone very quiet though.

Read, 'He's Just Not that Into You'. My friend bought it me after a vile ordeal with my ex and it was a godsend.

Yeah SwannMum that's a good one

I remember when I was 18....i thought I could fly ....we've all been there!

he wants sex but not all the boring girlfriend / heavy stuff: goin gshopping, meeting parents etc.

decide what you want, but doesn't sound like this guy is fitting your bill.

and i think you've come to exactly the right place! lots of women well-versed in the dating game..