Is this a typical English man?

[iva555]

Hi guys,

I am not english myself and I was hoping to get advice from many of you as I suspect most of you are english. I have lived here for 7 years but have never dated an English man. Been separated with DD for 11 months and getting divorced now. And I met this really nice guy and went out with him once. He then left for afghanistan as he is a soldier but when he returned now he wanted to see me again. But as we were speaking on skype and arranging a date he asked where I want to go as he only has £70 left in his pocket. I was shocked and didn't say anything. I mean you just don't say that to a woman before you go on a date with her or is that something normal here? Is it typical for an english man to expect you to cover half of the bill or tell you about his finances. For me it's really strange and off putting!

Where are you from may I ask?

Don't think this is an English trait just a nuance of your gentleman. I wouldn't take offence. If you otherwise like him I would overlook it until you know him better. If it continues to be an issue you can act then.

I am from Bulgaria. It was just a strange thing to say, that's all! Thanks for the advice

I would be surprised at him telling me exactly how much he had available - that's unusual in my opinion.

I would not be surprised if a man said 'I'm not too flush [rich] at the moment so can we go for a walk' or something like that. It doesn't sound as if he expected you to chip in - he wants to see you but can't pay for a really expensive date. I would see him again (if you want to), but I wouldn't throw my all into this relationship just yet - he sounds highly aware of money, to put it mildly, and that may or may not prove to be a problem.

Maybe more to do with him being a soldier?

Maybe he was just trying to be honest and set your expectations. He obviously wants to see you. Give him a chance if you like him otherwise.

thank you all...will think about it. Even if he didn't have a lot of money to spend he shouldn't have said it i think. I am not bothered about how much money he has but to tell me exactly in this way was off putting for me.

DaddyJ what did you mean by that? Are soldiers highly aware of money? I thought they get paid well....and they don't really have chance to spend their money!!!!!!

That does sound off putting. Not because he might not be rich but because such an openess shows that he is not bothered to make a good impression on you. Ok he might only have those £70 but it sounds like he does not care what you think about him whereas he should if he likes you.

I would go out with him but be warry - as he's just back from service he might be after sex only. He might not but I would not keep my hopes very high.

Or as DaddyJ said that could have something to do with him being a soldier. He was in Afghanistan you don't know what experiences he had there. Maybe to him all the niceties seem redundant because he's seen terrible things happen and he is just being brutally honest as he does not see the point in beating around the bush.

I'd give him a chance.

I just thought - £70 is more than enough for a date isn't it? Covers a nice meal in a restaurant and there should be left enough for a drink afterwards!

Well

I think I would be startled if someone said this, but...

You have known him for ...how long? 6 months? (not sure how long a tour lasts these days). Have you been in constant contact? Perhaps he feels close enough to you now to share it with you.

Maybe he's having issues with banks etc - and is running a bit low.

In any case, he seems prepared to spend his last £70 on you!

BTW soldiers do NOT get paid alot!! And they DO have lots of opportunity to spend it!!

I don't know if it's typical English behaviour but I wouldn't be offended. Better to honest IMO than leave you with expectations of being wined and dined that were disappointed.