Anyone else feel like they are going to be single forever?

[poshsinglemum]

I can't be with the man I love and I am sick of people telling me to move on as I have deep feelings for him. I don't feel like dating as no one else can come close atm.
I am badly scared from my previous relationships and I no longer trust my judgement. I turned down the one I love and dated a string of loosers instead. I just don't get myself.

My parents are no bloody use and my mates are lovely but they are all coupled up and I envy some of them.

I need a kick up the bum and a self- esteen injection. At the moment I just want to curl up and hibernate. I am not able to give dd my full attention and my family have been arses to me recently.

good god tiredoftherain, 2 years!? lmao

not sure I won't still be living with my deeply unbeloved H at that point, lol...it'll take a brave man to deal with that one heheh

after my disastrous recent marriage and travesty of a 'relationship', I really am starting to think it's me (that's what H said tbh, although the other guy did the whole 'it's not you it's me' thing which no doubt meant it was me but he couldn't face telling me. Lol.)

Come on you lot, it's not that bad! If we're all single mums then there's lots of single men out there too. We probably just don't want most of them. At least we've got our kids, cats and friends - a lot of them have an empty house to go home to.

And as for sex - well, what's wrong with a bit of DIY?

It's not all bad I have to admit. I've just been on a downer. Sometimes I revel in my frredom and independance and I rejoice at being out of the dating scene.
then I start to dwell on the past.

DIY can get a bit DULL after a while don't you agree queenofdenial

true, although it seems the world is full of couples I do often think, thank god I don't have to get out of bed on a Saturday morning and spend the day ARGUING with someone else about everything from the dirty cups in the sink to what route to take to the museum...instead I just spend the day arguing with ds1 but at least I mostly get to win those (mostly)...

pining terribly for my last (crap) relationship today. It's taking too long to get over...

Aww posh, i understand, i really do. i've been single for 6 years, all through my pregnancy, like you, and am now raising DD alone too. i'm nearly 34 and nearly all my mates are coupled up. it's really, really hard. sometimes i resent my friends who have it all so easy.
but take a long, hard look at other people's lives. we may not have a partner, but we have our gorgeous dds. wouldn't you choose our situation over a childless relationship? you say your family are being useless, and they probably are, but one good thing about being single is that you have more space to be a better daughter/sister/friend... when i'm really about being single, i try and be thankful for my parents, grandmother, brothers (don't mean to sound so sanctimonious, just try to find positives, iyswim)
there are many forms of love, and platonic love is no weaker than romantic love really.
i feel your pain, i really do, i feel it too when i long for the warmth of another body, or a cooked meal on getting home. but i would hate to die feeling life had disappointed me, or past me by, just because i wasn't lucky in love. we have our children. they are the real loves of our lives.

Hmm, howabout a breakaway club called 'I'm going to be single forever, HOORAY!'
Because being single is great. You don't have to spend all your time massaging some bloke's ego and putting his needs before yours just to be able to say you're With Someone, and if you want sex it's not difficult to get casual sex and indeed all the flirty fun stuff without having to wash his skiddy pants and look after him when he's got man flu. Try to make sure you have some releif childcare whether that's the DCs father or not, and take some time every week to do things taht you like doing.

SGB can we also start a breakaway thread for advice on where to get decent casual sex?? lmao

DD's dad had horrendous man flu. If he got a cold it was the end of thw world.

He regularly phoned me up during my pregnancy (because he couldn't be bothered to coem and see me!) in order to tell me about his latest sniffle! The twat!

Talking of single, my ex has just come round and announced he is marrying his gf that he started going out with in April and moved in with in August. Our divorce came through in September. He isnt messing around, I dont think he likes being single as much as I do

AG: Swingers' clubs are good - nice friendly non-psycho people on the whole and everyone's up for the same thing.

my ex emailed me today about how terrible it was for him to have to hear about an ordeal one of his friends had gone through...because he 'needed to vent' and there was no one at work he could talk to?!

you're right we are well rid...could sometimes do with a bloke about for extra heavy lifting though and for reaching hard-to-fit lightbulbs....

blimey SGB wasn't thinking of that doubt I am liberated enough...