im so confused!

[Scavo]

can anyone please give me some advice as i am going out of my head!
have been with dh for 14yrs now, married for 8 we have 2 fantastic kids, and life is pretty good, my problem is i think i am falling in love with another man. we met about 3 months ago at a party, and became really good friends, we've been e mailing, texting and speaking on the phone since then and have grown very very close. 2 weeks ago we met at another party and shared the most fantastic kiss i have ever had it just felt like i had come home, finally met my sole mate as crazy as that sounds!
we both want to meet again, and see where it takes us, he's married too, neither of us want to hurt anyone but we long to be together,
i do love my dh but we've become like brother and sister at this stage, there arent any sparks flying nor have there been for years now
Please help me make a decision
Anyone?

Gotta go now.. thanks bb and everyone x

1. Two boys (7 and 5) and a girl (18 months). Am only organised because we have lots of family and two Christmas days (and some of the same people will be at both).

Do you have boys or girls? (Or both?!)

Sleep well.

Just teasing

I think everyone hits some sort of wall in their relationship - life is never how we plan it is it?

hey scavo...not a gud place to be... yet hey you aint the first to be there... life is full of challenges...and yes you will be critisised whichever path you chose...but that path must be of your chosing...no-one elses! No-one can really tell you what is right or wrong as no-one else feels what you do.. you just have to trust that what you feel is right for you..I have experienced that desire for another but not the first kiss you describe..no-one can tell you whether to act on that kiss or not you must follow your desire and see where it leads...I wish for you true happiness..

Hi Scavo, I just wanted to say, I think you are great to put your h and dc first and ignore your desires for this om. I'm sure the rush of feelings you had for him made you feel 'alive' and gave you a sudden interest in your own life again. Years ago I had an affair with a man overseas because I was unhappy and trapped in the start of an abusive marriage, although I didn't recognise this at the time.
Anyway, I confessed my affair to my then h many years later and this was used as a mighty stick to beat me wih for years. The affair made my life a whole lot worse and I regret ever having gone there. I learned the hard way!

I'm sure if you had pursued your interest in this om then it would have led to untold heartache for both his and your families. You may well have ended up leaving your h only for the om to get cold feet and break it off with you.
You did the right thing by ending it now. I hope you go on to have a lovely Christmas with your h and dc knowing that your family is safe and together x

hey everyone
just wanted to say thank you all so much for advice and for listening, especially those of you who didnt feel the need to judge me and wave the big moral stick!
here's hoping i can put this all behind me mow though om is still persisting with texts all day trying to talk me into not finishing it (whatever it is/was i'm not sure) says he's in love with me, tho i know it cant be love, can it?
dont plan on finding out, and hoping i can stay strong in my decision to stay away!
thanks again girls xx

It probably feels like love but it's infatuation - doesn't last and leaves you wondering what the hell you were up to. Think back to teenage boyfriends if you don't believe me... Bin your sim card, get a new phone number and congratulate yourself on being a brilliant, strong person.

yeah i know kate, really i do, but its been so long since anyone has shown that much interest in me i guess i got bit carried away with the whole idea of the soul mate s**t, felt a bit like a teenager again.
have been very stupid but thankfully no one got hurt in my stupidity
may sound hard to believe but am normally very sensible, just slipped a little but hopefully back on track now
Thanks x