This is a Friday night question!...

[Fizzfiend]

Er well, this one is about, er, penetration!
Have a lovey bf who is late 40s. I love everything about him, but we are having an issue in the sex department.

Rather I am. He's having problems getting it up/keeping it up, but it doesn't seem to bother him. He says he just loves cuddling/pleasuring me, etc. He's very good at what he does and always makes me come, but I am getting obsessed with just being f**ed!

Am I being a spoiled brat? I have kind of mentioned Viagra a couple times, but he's scared to go to the dr in case they find something bad! Typical man. Am I placing too much importance on traditional f**ing? I know that people are starving in the world, but this is a thing that's getting me so frustrated. Would you put up with it?

It's possible he's not that keen on penetration. I agree that seeing a doctor about this sort of problem is wise, but if he doesn't want to - you can't make him.

Would penetration with, say, a dildo or vibrator, be an option?

Believe me he loves penetration....he has a long and bad history!!! I feel like I've just got unlucky with his age, etc. Ugh! So frustrated but don't want to topple his male ego!

Is he a smoker? Does he have diabetes or high blood pressure? Is this a new problem between the two of you or has he always had problems maintaining an erection?

Impotence in men of a relatively young age can be due to physical reasons so it might be worth him having a check up with his GP, as reluctant as he might be it could be very worthwhile.

He is a smoker...do you think that might be the problem? I'm never going to get him to the dr tho.

I think the starving people get f**ked sometime too tho

Do you think the starving people are saying "oh well, theres people in the world who are not getting F**ked"

the starving people are truly fucked all the time purpledcuk

they are separate problems, i'd venture to say

..would he be open to a well man clinic, tell him about he smoking link etc.. it might be easier than to tell it to personal doctor?

It probably will start to piss you off in the longterm though. You need to discuss it, even if it makes him uncomfortable. I'm tempted to say to get some viagra online, but you really need medical supervision to be safe.

Isn't there some helpline specifically for this sort of thing? It has some annoying TV advert where a middleaged couple dance round the kitchen to Bolero

If he goes to the docs and they find something it will only be something he already has. The doctor doesn't give you illness, just identifies it. Make him go. Afterall neither of you want it to drop off

can you be more specific?
Does he get it up, get it in, then go soft?

Found it. These people 40over40

They are sponsored by a pharmaseutical company though

ahem

you are not exactly over the hill in your 40's

farrrr too young to be consigning yourself to a substandard sex life (unless it works for you both)

he really should see the doctor, he is being an idiot, tbh...he's not in his 80's ffs, impotence in a relatively young man should be checked out

like BOF said, if you really like being rogered silly, this is going to bother you in the long run

if both people are happy with a situation, then fine, but you are obviously not

Ginseng/saw palmetto and pomegranate juice, all brilliant for mens sexual health.

Pomegranate extract would be more concentrated and more effective, it works on opening up the blood vessels in the same way as viagra, which can have some horrible side effects.
A penis pump and cock ring would be another alternative, my DH has never suffered with any kind of ED but I've done research in case he ever does - viagra would be the last resort.

Diet and excercise plus not smoking are the best guards against sexual dysfunction.