Not sure if he is a nice guy or not, but not sure if I even care...

[waitingforbetterdays]

I've met a new guy recently and went on two dates with him. He seems like a really nice guy, wanted to pay for everything and walked me home at the end of the night and gave me a kiss on the cheek both times. He is not pushy atall and always says he will come to my area to meet up, instead of me travelling to his area (only about half an hour away by train). So seems like a gentle man really.

I met him through my best friends partner as they work together, but are not close friends.

The night I met him my friends partner said 'he is only after one thing'. Then the guy contacted me on facebook and asked if I would like to meet up. I thought why not and met him.

Anyway the frist time I was meant to meet him he cancelled at the last minute saying he had the flu. And my friends partner said he came into work the next monday with lovebites all over his neck. And he also told her he is sleeping with a married woman...

I find this strange as he does not seem like the kind of guy who would be sleeping around and things like that as did seem like a nice guy to me.

I'm not too worried as I'm not sure how much I like him anyway, I thought I liked him as a person but didnt fancy him. Now I'm wondering if he is playing some weird games and pretending to be somone he isnt.

I dont want to be getting involved with someone like that as have done in the past and didnt like it.

Now I'm no sure if I should just ask him about these things outwright, but it isnt really any of my business as we have only met up a couple of times and nothing has happened between us... I just find it all strange...

I think you have had sufficient warnings to be honest, just because he seems nice doesn't mean he is. Actions speak louder than words and his actions say a thousand not very nice words.

Dodge the bullet.

I suppose you are right. But I was thinking that he is single so can do what ever he likes, we are not in a relationship so what he does is his business really.

I just found it strange thats all.

I think you like him more than you are letting on as you seem to have put a lot of time thinking into this.

I'm not sure how I feel tbh. I have not felt attracted to him like I have my past partners. But did think he was a nice guy. And it has been nice to go out on a couple of dates with someone.

I think the reason I'm thinking about it is because my last partner was a nightmare and was always lying and cheating. So now I often think about men and them all being cheats etc....

I say listen to instinct, something is telling you it's not right.

But wait - do you have any evidence other than what your friend's partner says, and are you absolutely certain she doesn't have her own slightly odd agenda?

Mind you, if you're not attracted to him you're probably wasting your time anyway - if you're looking for romance rather than friendship, at least. I just think you shouldn't think ill of people on dubious evidence. That's not the same as thinking you should carry on dating. You don't need an excuse NOT to fancy someone!

Anyone covered in love bits is not a nice person (IMHO!) I'd run a mile...that's teenage behaviour.

They might have been hives!

No I do not have any evidence other then what my friends partner told her. And I cannot think of any weird aganda she would have, we ar very close and I truse her.

I dont feel attracted to him, but thought maybe it was time I met someone that I learned to like instead of fancying someone straight away and then falling in love and being heart broken...

I have to say I was seeing someone a while ago and he had given me some lovebites which I was totally pissed of about and felt they were cheap and discusting. And I am a nice person.... So you cant always judge someone on that...

I didnt see the lovebites but apparrently everyone at work saw them and was talking about them.And then my friends partner saw them as well....

Firstly: he is not in a relationship with you, so it is none of your business who he is sleeping with.
Secondly: Having a partner is not compulsory, and trying to force yourself to fancy someone because s/he is there is always a bad idea.

Thirdly: if you are recently out of a really bad relationship, you are vulnerable to predators. Some men really like women in emotional distress and will be ever so charming and lovely and very subtly pushy until they have their feet under the table, then the controlling will really start.
IF you're not bothered about him, bin him. Plenty more fish in the sea.