advice needed for my darling brother

[purplepeony]

who is internet dating.

Has met a woman who he likes but who appears to have terrible possessiveness issues.

On date one, she suggested he had to drop/change some of his part time work as it involves hand-on with women, which she didn'tlike, on date 2 she accused him of looking at another woman in a pub ( dressed outrageously he said) on date 3 she chucked him on the basis that he had looked at someone else during the date- group activity outside doing physical event type things ( again untrue.) Then she half apologises and says she is still interested in him and sends come-on texts.

My brother is sweet and honest - he oggles no more/noless than any man.

I think he should bin her- she sounds bad news.

Anyone else?

She sounds pretty abusive, he's well rid of her.

Seriously, on the first date, she suggests he should change his job - why did he go on the second date? He is giving her a green light to abuse him.

and just to add - she chucked him half way home, on the motorway, in the dead of night in the most terrible stormy weather of last week. During a 5 hour drive.
Mad or what?

Yes seriously, she suggested he change his part tiem job- or rather told him to "think on it" as she doesn't like the idea of him touching woemn ( in a totally HCP way.)

He is mid 40s, lonely and she ticks lots of boxes- but I think this behaviour is enough to say no way.

Your brother sounds far too nice to date a woman who seems to have so many issues. She sounds rather controlling, tbh.
However, if he likes her and wants to see her again, maybe he needs to find out for himself. /

ooooh, I'll have him! Is he on Match?

yes he is- and also Muddy Matches.com
North east- aged 46. has a black labrador. Into skiing- can't say more!

Bugger off beautiful I spotted him first

sorry- he's still 45!

Sounds like a nutter. Ask him how he'd see it if you told him that a man had been saying those things to you?

Seriously, what dizietsma said - abusive.

I'll pass. I am in deep dark south west

Is the labrador available?

Beautiful - steady on!

sounds awful.im sure us mnetters can find him a much lovelier lady

She sounds utterly ridiculous. He's well rid. I don't know what boxes she'd have to tick for it to be worth putting up with the kind of behaviour you describe.

Yank- that's what I think too. He has offered to meet her for a (final) drink to discuss/find way forward but I think she needs counselling- this is a pattern and she boasts she has walked out on 2 previous internet dates in pubs, as they ( supposedly) looked at other women. Barking.

Bugger it, I'm dahn Saarf. Hmm. If I moved house to be with man I have never met, is that breaking 'The Rules'?

oh Beautiful - just break the rules! Mind you, he hates the NE. Do you like mud and dogs?

Love dogs, hate mud. Hmm. Will our love survive??

She sounds like a lunatic! If she's like that now just imagine a few years down the line, she would have the poor bugger chained to the house (and not in a good way!!)

I would say he is well rid and wouldn't even contemplate another date with the loon, she sounds unhinged!

What's there to discuss? She's bonkers! If he really wants to help her, he'd put his foot down and refuse to have any more to do with her. That's the only way she'll learn she can't act like a psycho and apologise after.

hmmm.. I know an attractive 47 yr old woman in the NE who is after a nice bloke - she's too tight to pay for match.com though. Shame.

He sounds lovely tough - don't let him settle for a PSYCHO bunny boiler!

She's sounds like a pyscho, run for the hills

The alarm bells ought to ring for him! Stop seeing her-she will only get worse.

Bunny Boiler! Tell him to run as fast as he can in the opposite direction if he loves his dog!

Yes, she sounds like an absolute nightmare.

If she's like this now imagine how much worse she'll be in, say, a month.