christmas card

[tommynose]

Just have to get this off my chest as its getting close to christmas.

Dh's aunt has never put my name on any Christmas cards she has sent. Its always been to and wife. We've only been together 14 years! Last year it was to , wife and children.

MIL knows she does this as dh always comments, but she has obviously never said anything to her (its her sister btw) and it gets quite annoying when its year after year. I don't see her very often and neither does dh but if I don't know anyone's name I will always ask.

I would love to send a card and write my name in capitals with wife in brackets but I wouldn't dare. She would get the message though

Oh and BIL and girlfriend have been together 2 years and apparently she gets her name right.

What do you MN'ers think.

that's so bizarre... how weird... and horrid for you. i'd be too scared to do what you're suggesting but would certianly get the msg across!

what a weird thing for her to do. is she very old and forgetful?

just send her one with says 'to Aunt' from 'nephew, wife and children' and leave it at that.

No, she's not old at all and definately not forgetful.

It wouldn't be so bad if she put Mrs and Mrs (surname) and family on the envelope and just wrote who it was from inside the card.

i second WhatDidISayRoy.

rude cow (the aunt, not WhatDidIsayRoy

pmsl - i can be a rude cow too though

Sorry but have you nothing else to concern you in life - if so I reckon you're quite lucky!

This is a total non problem.

Laugh at it.

NanaNina that is very harsh and sorry down right horrid.

I agree with Morris laugh at it she is a rude old hag and not to be worried about but it is hurtful when you feel your are being slighted and ignored by your IL's when really what you want is to feel like part of the same family.

Maybe she can't be arsed ...sometimes after writing loads of cards I just put to * and family

HOW FUNNY
do you sign yours

"Love John and wife"

i would

i dont send cards

job done

Do aunts of husbands count as in laws though?

I think my DP has an aunt but I can't be sure.

Plenty of mad people though on both sides of our families, and if somebody we didn't see very often didn't know my name I could not care a jot.

MIL doesn't know/ can't spell my surname, bless her. Who cares. It's him I like, not the random people related to him.

NanaNina, you're right, in the grand scheme of things this is a trivial matter. MN isn't just for tragedies and crises though, is it?

OP your DH's Aunt is rude, it may have started in ignorance and continued out of habit, but those aren't excuses for lazy manners. As you say, she's not elderly and losing her memory. Do you ever see this woman in person, and if so, what does she call you?

Write your name in capital letters in this year's card and send it early enough so that it will precede the writing and posting of her's to you. See if that prompts an acknowledgment. If not, then tell DH he's in charge of his aunt's card next year?