how will i mix by new relationship with the rest of my life........

[mixingthetwo]

Ive been in a new relationship for a few months and things are going really well. Ive started telling people im seeing someone and i know there will come a point when friends and family are going to want to meet him.
herein lies the complication.
Its a bit of an alternative relationship in that its D/s. Now im very happy with this, or else i wouldnt be doing it, and am having the most wonderful fun. But i dont know how im going to reconcile the the two areas in my life without the raising of questions or eyebrows!

AF: pity the OP's gone as I would have been interested to know more about the specifics. However, 'sexual posturings' can be a little bit of a subjective term. Gay people are often accused of 'flaunting' their gayness by simply doing the things that heterosexuals do eg holding hands with a partner while walking down the road. With a BDSM relationship, most people wouldn't actually start tying each other up in Tescos or anything, but (for instance) some people like to wear jewellery that indicates their sexual/emotional preferences or even just call each other 'Mistress' instead of 'Sweetiebum' or whatever.

well, putting to one side for a moment that the Op did sound like a "flaunter", I wasn't referring to homosexuals holding hands etc

I class that as loving, not particularly sexual, behaviour and within what I would call good manners in a public place

I don't think the Op meant that though

she was talking about behaviours that might cause the raising of eyebrows and that is exhibitionist and frankly, bad manners

however, the question is probably void now cos he/she is long-gone

Can you imagine being at a family gathering etc. and hearing a couple call each other "Master" or "Mistress"?

I have visions of them wearing a collar and lead and having to eat their food from a plate on the floor.

Surely people don't live like that 24/7 - god how exhausting would that be?

I'm all for a bit of D/s bedroom roleplay but if hubby ordered me to do anything outside the bedroom he would be told in no uncertain terms to piss off.
Although having said that, the more D/s our bedroom activites get, the more I'm tending to do for him day to day, like making his sandwiches/bringing him stuff etc. That could be because he's keeping me happy and satisfied that I'm more inclined to do housewifely stuff?
If it's all a ploy on his side, it's definitely working.

Perhaps I am turning into a surrendered wife?

I sort of see us as BDSM - lite.

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Damn I knew I forgot to do something this morning!!! DP has gone to work with his collar on OOPPSS

Malificence: some people do live in a (sort of) 24/7 DS relationship as in it permeates their whole lives and isn't just about what happens when they get into the bedrom/dungeon. However, most of these people also engage with the rest of the world, have jobs and non-kinky friends etc. Just like vanilla besotted couples go about their daily lives while remaining 'in love' they don't have to snog each other or have sex in the middle of Granny's birthday tea party. The ones that do make a huge public display of their sex life, whether it's kinky or straight, are usually the ones with some sort of problem.