love or lust, how to tell the difference?

[verylucylastic]

been pondering this, i have another thread somewhere, how do you know the difference?

I wish I knew, it might help my situation! I am having even more trouble deciding due to my extreme sexual frustration!

Does it matter???

Lust = probably not a great deal to say to each other.

Love - when you put up with a person despite all their faults and accept that faults are a part of what makes a person real. For instance, DP farting and leaving noxious smells in the bathroom having been in there for over half an hour.

Lust - when you fancy the pants off someone and lust after their body and person but can't imagin them farting or making noxious smells!

Anywhere close?

Lust is ultimately selfish. Like hunger or thirst. It is about satisfying your need. Nowt wrong with that of course but it isn't enough alone to build a long term relationship on.

Love is there for the long-haul. Even when the lust fades. It gives as much as it takes.

Lust - you fancy them and want to have sex with them constantly.

Love - you have something to say to them afterwards, other than 'shall we do that again?'

I have fond memories of someone at university I used to be madly in lust with, but I'd take a copy of the Sunday Times round to his flat so we have something to do after, to make it more respectable than me just getting dressed and going home. We had absolutely nothing in common and I had completely nowt to say to him.

Difficult. Love - longer term.

But if you knew the difference at the beginning of a relationship it would probably make life much easier!