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I don't feel like anyone listens to me

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MontgomeryCheese · 20/11/2009 11:01

I'm perhaps just feeling sorry for myself but I feel as though nobody ever listens to me. Like I'm fine to listen to other people's problems but nobody gives a shit about what I have to say.

I was at my mums the other day and she was waffling on and on and on about her husband and all her problems. I sat there for an hour not saying a word, just listening and then as soon as I could get a word in edge-ways I mentioned something that was going on in my life. So she chose this opportunity to start messing around with her hearing aid. She cut me off mid sentance asking if I'd seen the postman going past. She cut me off again to say she was freezing and was I cold...when I eventually got out what I wanted to say she gave a brief "oh, well it will be ok ... you know that thing that I was talking about earlier, what do you think I should do?" She just doesn't want to know.

My DP is the same. If I talk he'll stop me mid sentance with "hmm" as if I'm boring him to death or he'll simply ignore me and just say "yeah" in the right places. If I ask what I've just said, he doesn't have a clue. I've told him about this before and he says he doesn't realise he's doing it am I that boring that he doesn't realise he's cut me off mid sentance when I'm talking? Sometimes he'll even close his eyes and nod whilst I'm speaking as if he can't wait for me to shut up.

Even my friend does it. She'll waffle on and on about her problems then as soon as I speak, she'll laugh and change the subject.

I'm getting really sick of it all.

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melpomene · 20/11/2009 11:17

That sounds upsetting. Do they realise how concerned you are about it? Perhaps you give off an impression of coping well and you sound like a good listener, so maybe they don't realise how much you need to talk.

Your dh should get his act together though.

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