I asked DH when we could talk and he said tonight

[FabIsABadMother]

And now I don't want too.

He isn't happy with me at the moment. Mainly how I am --not- managing the kids and my mental health.

I feel like I can't cope at times and want to run away but I don't want too lately and I love DH so much but just .

Be brave. Talk to him. You need his support. You're BOTH parents, if the kids are playing up then he needs to help out more, esp if you're not 100% - it's not just your job sweetie.

I'm very disapproving of your new name, I might make you change it back to ImNotMAmaGButSheLovesMe if you don't change it soon!

FGS I can't even type not and don't want too really.

He is 100% with the kids when he is here and can't do any more than he does tbh.

I can tell him anything except one thing.

Morning Fab- another vote here for you to change your name.

Is this all to do with whatever it was that happened recently to upset you or was it before that that he was concerned?

Try to talk to him.

Do try to talk to him, he sounds like a good man.

And mine wsn't a request to namechnage, it was an order

Fab - having read your posts in the past I know you have said DH has always been wonderful and supportive of you. He cannot help you now if you will not talk. Be brave.

You are not a bad mother so do please change that name.

change it immediately!

is it the one thing you can't tell him hanging over you?

can you tell someone else?

Fab, you're really struggling at the moment aren't you petal? Please change that name - it's really not true.

Grit your teeth and talk to him.

"I can tell him anything except one thing." You're not contemplating anything "silly" are you?

so what one thing can't you tell him? and why not?

Fab, Hi there. Please keep talking to us

Another order to change your name, though I am not as bossy as MamaG

Please be honest with your DH, he sounds so kind and supportive and you need to sort things out.

Hope it all goes well for you

Where are you Fab?? Everything ok?

Is it still the other man? Or is it something you haven't mentioned on here before? Or the news that knocked you for six that you posted about the other day and then wouldn't say what it was? The hints at something darkly wrong are mildly annoying on mumsnet, but I'm sure they must be deeply frustrating to someone who shares their life with you. Whatever it is, it's probably best that you let him know if he is the one dealing with the situation at home. Not very fair to keep him in the dark really, but you know that, I'm sure.

You have to be so careful not to let your hopes rest on bringing this person to justice- did you see how things turned out for sleepingwiththeenemy when she updated?

It beggared belief.

Try to see bringing the case as part of you moving on and putting it behind you. Like you have moved on and put the other man FROM YOUR PAST behind you too. He was of his time, and is not of this time. Your husband, your loving supportive husband is your NOW. And it IS hard living with someone with depression. Cut him some slack and keep trying- it would be a crying shame to sacrifice your marriage and family on the alter of your unhappy childhood.

I hope you have a more relaxed evening tonight, both of you, and some sleep.

I don't know swte. What happened?

My marriage means everything to me and my DH is my darling. I hope we will be okay.

CPS dropped the case because another woman was scared to restify. Her ex was up for raping her, abusing her daughters, and attacking other women. Off scot free

Poor woman had shown the strength of Samson if you'd read her threads over the last couple of years- awe-inspiring. The state still fucked her royally though. But she is still an incredible woman, and has kept it together for her kids- no-one can take that away from her. I hope she is ok.

restify? Testify, obv.

I hope he gets what he deserves, I really do.

Don't let you and your dh miss out on what you deserve in the meantime though!

Keep strong Fab. BoF has given good advise

I'd like you to go back to FabulousBakerGirl, I love that name and it really suits you

I will after I have had my surprise.

I feel different today. I don't know what has come over me.

ooh how exciting, I love surprises! I remember when IW as6 I asked for a doll, a baby doll with brown eyes, for Christmas

my mum narrowed her eys and said "have you been in my wardrobe?"

I hadn't - I was GUTTED that the surprise was spoiled!

OOOh how exciting. i love surprises. good to know today is feeling a bit bettr and a much much better name.