a good friend of mine has split with her partner (his choice). she is 7 months pregnant and this is their second child. they have never lived together so at the very least the painful part of separating that part of their lives is not an issue.
the reason why i don't know how to support her is because he ended their relationship about 5 months ago, after telling her that he was involved with another woman. after weeks of discussion and tears and trauma, they got back together again.
during the first break up, i virtually opened my home to my friend so that she and her child were not left alone and miserable on weekends. for weeks, she would be at mine on a Saturday night and spend the night here with her son. I have a DH and DS and our kids are good friends.
however, having her here so often took its toll on me and DH and family life. we both work long hours and need our time on the weekends.
i so want to be there for my friend who is beyond distraught, but i do not want her staying over at ours again. i realise that may sound harsh and i know that she so deeply and sincerely appreciated it, but i cannot do it again.
so my question is how can i help her without letting it take over my family again? my heart breaks for her.
any ideas? maybe i spend time at hers? but that would also eat into our precious weekends. or am i being selfish??