Can there be a happy ending ?

[MillyMollyMoo]

I'll try and keep this brief.
DH and I met when I had my DD aged 11 months and was lonely living a dreadful "life" of working/sleeping nothing in between, hardly saw DD awake.
Being with him gave me the opportunity of a family life, I got pregnant with our baby and gave up work and was relatively happy, but there was never any courting between DH and I. We married and had DC3
So 7 years later I wanted another baby, we were going through a rocky patch and I talked him into (against lots of MN advice ) trying for another and I am 9 weeks pregnant.
He's being vile, swearing at me, rowing over silly things that do not matter.
Money is tight, isn't it for everyone, so we as a couple and as a family aren't doing much fun stuff togther.
So today I am going to the GP to ask for an abortion, mainly for my other childrens sake because what ever happens I will not allow them to suffer.

Should I be seeing a solicitor as well, I cannot work out if this is survivable as a relationship, we actually have very little in common aside of the children, but that is because the children absorb all the spare income that would be spent on the things we have in common if that makes sense ?

milly, hope you're doing ok.

Elenor - FFS have a heart! If you expect a personal response to every post on here you will be disappointed.
I'm sure your advice was very helpful to the OP, but your nasty post after was uncalled for.

Hello Milly,

My DH and i had an abortion. I was 9 weeks pregnant. Eventhough it was a decision i was 100% with it was the worst things i have ever had to do, physically & emotionally.

I think if you have any doubts and go ahead with it you cant come out the other end without some resentment towards your DH or even yourself.

It was 7 years ago now, we are married and have a DS. We dont regret our decision but i sometimes wonder what if.

On the other hand i understand where your DH is coming from. He probably feels so out of control. It must be very hard for the man because ultimately the decision has to be what the woman wants.

I think its too late now for him to say he wants an abortion then to see what happens. You both should have thought about that 9 weeks ago. It may have been a mistake but you both had a part in that and i think you need to deal with whats going to happen.