Why does your DH love you and what do you think of my DH's reasons?

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Dh is always saying he loves me, but it sometimes seems that he says it out of habit, rather than it having any really meaning itswim.

So, I asked him why he loves me- what it is about me that he loves?

I got, I'm a good cook and I've made a lovely home

When I expressed some disappointment he added "you're good in bed"

He could pay for all those things

for a bloke that's what counts, isn't t?

I think your DH's reasons aren't too bad. I just asked my DH the question, and he answered

'your specs (specifications)'

When we met, I was an analyst and he was a programmer on a large IT project. I wrote the specs and apparently that's what he fell in love with. FWIW, I'm also a good cook and like to think I'm good in bed but that wasn't the answer.

he loves you, thats enough

I think you are being a bit precious tbh.

If he said because you were a good shag you wouldn't have liked it.

I just asked mine and he said "because I am the best wife in the world."

He loves you. He's only giving those as reasons because you pushed him - he loves you because you're you, and you're the person he loves.

It's always awful when you ask them why! I used to get, "Because you're a good laugh and a great f**k." Quelle Hallmark.

At least he didn't say, "Because you put up with me." That is the most loveless reason in the world.

Your Dh sounds rather old fashioned! Are you happy in the relationship is it equal? Was he being tongue in cheek at all?
I just asked my dp he replied 'becausse I do' when probed further he said 'because you're amazing''

If DW asked me straight out as a surprise question like that I really would not have a clue what to say. Probably would say something quite lame like 'because you are you'.

I just love her and have from the moment I met her. She really does not believe me at all when I say that, even after 25 years, but really that is all I can say.

Don't over analyse it. The important question is do you feel loved and in love with him?

If so then that is all that matters.

"I complete him".

But I agree with ABetaDad.

The whys don´t matter, just that he does.

he loves you, thats what matters. I couldnt list the reasons why I love my DH, because it isnt just one or two things its everything.

If I ask my DH this question, he looks like a rabbit in the headlights, then begins looking for the nearest exit It's one of those loaded questions, where every answer is a pit fall. A bit like 'Is X pretty?'.....

My husband (who was moved from country to country throughout his childhood, was pretty restless and didn't feel like he belonged anywhere) that when he met me/ fell in love with me he had found "home"- that I was where he belonged. I think that is SO sweet and romantic, but if he asked me - seriously, I couldn't give a good one-liner. I just love him because he is HIM. I'd probably say something like "because you clean and cook a lot, will always pop out for a bottle of wine if I want one, are smart and don't like football" - hahahahha.
Ho-hum, my point is, not everyone has an articulate answer for a question like that.

becasue I have big tits

your dh is a normal bloke-don't expect the perfect answer

Men don't analyse why they feel what they do, they will just come up with what they think you want to hear when pressed.

I was once in a pub and a somewhat inebriated wife was asking her equally drunk husband if he still loved her. He said that he did but she asked him to elaborate, because apparently he never showed it. He responded 'Of course I loves you, I fucks you and I buys you chips.'

I don't care why my husband loves me, it's enough to know that he does and always will.
I don't completely know why I love him, it's too complex, so many pieces of the jigsaw.

It really doesn't matter why, only how. (and how often).

I don't know. I asked the question during a heart to heart about our relationship He'd let me down over something (not a major crime, but something he knew would hurt me) and kept insisting that he loved me, but I sometimes feel its just something he's in the habit of saying,rather than something he really means.

I guess I was hoping for something that was about me being me, rather than the stuff I do for him iyswim.

Just asked my DH and he said "Do I have to answer?" He then made some hmmm noises and said "I duno, theres loads of reasons".

Your DH just sounds like a normal bloke IMO

don't fish for compliments, is pointless and always ends in disappointment

MamiBabi I've just snorted overy my keyboard

It sounds like there is more going on here than the usual fishing for compliments?

I asked my DH what attracted him to me - his answer? "nice tits and legs" I guess I would have preferred a more deep response but hey never mind!

Men are not programmed to be sensitive, if thats all he does that is not serious then you are lucky, juding by some of the stories on here. What was it he did that hurt you?

Tell him how you felt by his comments.