Why would someone ask you something like this?

[Frrrightattendant]

Ok, have had very old friend here (I mean we go back a long way) he is a bloke and he fancies me.

I have uncertain feelings about him/a relationship with him, but we have ahd the odd kiss the last couple of days, he is staying at his mum's up the road for a family thing.

Anyway he is kissing me a minute ago (gone now, going back home later so won't see for a few months)

He stands and looks at me and says 'you don't have any health problems at the moment do you?'

I am kind of offended and bemused by this, think about it for a second, and say 'No...why?'

he makes up some nonsense about staying in a house full of women who are always discussing their health problems. I don't believe him and think he has either heard some gossip perhaps? which is weird as I have only ever had one vaguely serious thing and that was a year ago...can't remember if he knew about it or not. And it's fine now.

I feel really uncomfortable suddenly.

Any ideas?

ah ok.

no. 2 is the no strings guy.

no. 1 is the wierd eccentric who is madly in love with you.

tbh i don't think either of them float your boat or really get you.

if you decided to go for it, would you feel like you've settled?

if so, hang on - try and meet more men. i think you will find someone who doesn't make you cringe or annoy you with giggling (wtf???).

Look, if you think someone's a little bit wierd in a way that makes you uneasy, do not go for any kind of sexual/romantic involvement with this person, because you are essentially not suited to each other.
Initially I thought this must be a case of (and do please excuse me making hypothetical suggestions here) you having had herpes or something and him wondering if he'd catch it, but reading more of your posts I think basically this guy needs a BDSM relationship and you wouldn;t be comfortable with that. Maybe you should steer him towards the fetish scene and wish him luck?

thanks for the messages.

Firstly no, have not and have never had herpes! (thanks for that!) the thing I had was a hospital acquired infection.

I am not sure what BDSM means but you are probably right.

I'm not comfortable with him and that's all there is to it. I wish I were as I am fed up with being on my own. But obviously it is better than being with someone I don't really click with.

It's not a problem just being friends though, hopefully.