I wondered whether anyone else feels like this about their relationship? I have been a lurker here for years, and have actually met up with a couple of mners (albeit a couple of years ago). I have therefore name-changed for this post.
We?ve been together for six years. Have two dc?s. No money worries, and we live a comfortable life. For the past year or so, I have, with more and more frequency (usually after arguments), fantasised about separating. It seems to me that my life, and the lives of my children, would be better without my partner living with us.
My partner is not a bad person. But he is difficult to live with, and controlling (of me and the children). Unfortunately, he absolutely refuses to believe that he can be unreasonable and hard work. I think this may, in part, be because our backgrounds and experiences of family life are very, very different. Subsequently, our ideas on what makes a good partner/parent can be poles apart. I have twice suggested counselling, but he won?t agree to it.
The purpose of me initiating this post, is to find out whether anyone else has the same thoughts about starting a new life without their partner? Is it normal to feel like this, and still be able to have a relationship which is worth working at?
Maybe I am just being completely selfish, and thinking about what would be best for me, whilst disregarding my partner and my children?s feelings. He is generally a good father, and I do understand that long term relationships require work, and will inevitably go through ups and downs.
I feel my life is at a complete crossroads, and would really appreciate some opinions on this. Thank you.