I was going to post something like this today as well! I can totally understand what you mean. The difference is with my DH is it's lot & lots of mobile talk & texting and when I'm at work he goes to her house etc. The thing is, the girl is much younger (about 18-20 I think). The last convo we had today is that he will speak to whoever he pleases whenever he pleases! She called once at about 2:30am this was about 2 weeks ago. I questioned this and he told me today that it must have been one of the younger kids playing with her phone ????
It seems like he wants to have this 'friendship' in secret. He won't speak to her for too long if I'm in the room (what's that all about?)
The thing is, it's causing lots of problems between us. She told DH that I called her?? I've never spoken to her, but DH seems to believe that I did so it's like my word against hers. It's nuts!! We went to a fashion show once (that she was in) and he was acting as if he didn't even know her! After the show I couldn't understand why he was in such a rush to get me to go to the car and wait!
He said to me today that he 'likes' speaking with her. I even foound him speaking to her whilst he was lying in the bath!!! U may find me crazy, but that's not on!
This isn't the first time that this has happened. It happened before and the only reason I found out is becuase I ended up with a £400 BT Phone bill, where he had spent up to 1 and half hours on the phone talking to this girl! Sorry - but I did call the number concerned (even though he tried to but a marker pen through it). He was livid, but why are you spending to much time on the phone with this woman! I'd be lucky if I got 1.5 minutes of his time never mind 1 hour and a half!
Sorry goinginsane for stealing your thread, but I know exactly how U feel (so I may seem completely nuts as well).
In my relationship if the shoe was on the other foot, my DH would be having none of it and that's that. But he expects me to just accept it! Yep it's true that we have friends, male & female but there's got to be some sort of cut off! It's like when we first met, we would talk for 1-2 hours on the phone (mostly nonsense), but we enjoyed it. That was all part of us forming a relationship. But it's as though I see him doing the same thing, but with someone else.
What's going on . I feel really down at the mo and my heart is really pumping away (i can feel the pulse in my neck beating away like mad). It worries me as I'm now 17 + 2 pregnant and I don't want to stress myself out, but I also can't hide how I feel.
xx