If you are about get married or our married what would you change or do different on your special wedding day.

[cava]

Im intrigued becuase been with dp for a long time and have two children think we when we do I will go off and have a party.

Only invite the people that are important to you, and not all the hangers on, cousins twice removed, etc! Your real friends will be happy for you and won't care what your wedding is like so long as you are happy! Takes alot of the pressure off. We had 80 close friends and family at our wedding and it was a brilliant day. Also - have a honeymoon! We both went straight back to work after our wedding but in hindsight should have given ourselves some time together just to relax - doesn't need to be expensive - just some time out!

sayithowitis, I had no speeches because my parents are divorced and my Mom would have been offended (my Dad did walk me down the aisle). We knew and our family and friends knew that we loved each other and wanted to be together for the rest of our lives, that wasn't measured by the quality of the favours or the expense of the flowers.
I just find this whole Bridezilla thing and spending so much money on a day, causing stress and debt really tasteless and unnecessary.
I have been married 7 years (yes, we lived together for 4 years prior to marriage) but the strength of our marriage is nothing to do with how much we spent on one day.
The one massively over the top wedding we went to (with an engagement ring the size of Ayres rock), well the couple never made it to their first year.

Oh yeah and go on honeymoon 2 days after not the next day. All too stressful the day after as you need to do wedding prep and holiday packing.

Also gives you time to see people who've travelled esp for wedding.

That's what we should be doing really but as the holiday is booked sat-sat we are already 'losing' a day 1/2 by not going til sun evening

What's done is done though Nymph. We only did it the way we did as the flights fell that way.

At least you have someone to help with the dress though!

Its a pita that we could only have say-sat & also are stuck with school hols & wanted to go abroad but couldn't afford where we fancied in school hols!

I have no idea how I would have laced up my back if my friend wasn't coming!

I'm getting married next may. My sisters being a total pain in the backside about her bridesmaid dress.

I need to be more assertive

write a proper speech while sober

I would not have had the day at all and would have prefered a simple exchange of vows and a few friends in a lovely location.

Rather than a church that was cold, a meal that had to reorganised half an hour before DW walked down the aisle and relatives who hated each other.

Feeling a bit ignorant - what is 'waves at extended'?

Weddings - mine was perfect - except I got out of hospital the day before and the dress looked a little bumpy over my surgical corset!! Oh and it was a world cup (not positive maybe European - 1986) game of footie. I lost husband, best man and ex boyfriend...found them in honey moon room watching football! Actually it was really very funny and we moved the young and daft part of the guests upstairs for a while!

I got married last November, Registry office with only close friends and family present.
We hired a pub in the city (London) for the reception (with about 50 more guests.)
I managed to organise the whole thing in just over 3 months and wouldn't change a thing

I'm getting married in August. Dp and I couldn't be more excited.

We're going to Gretna Green for a small ceremony and meal with just family and then we'll have a party with close family and friends.

Nothing at all. Had 8 weeks to plan it (plus an international move). Registry office, nearest and dearest present, curry (posh Indian restaurant) and pints (posh pub) afterwards, night in a nice riverside hotel, big lunch with family next day. Simple, lovely, memorable. Avoided cliche, convention and bandwagon.

Good luck to you cava when you do decide to tie the knot.

Sorry, Extended is a troll who has namechanged and posted here. Banned for now though.

Thank you - I did wonder!

So many great personal ideas and thoughts of your special day ,I know one thing I would like something low key for our wedding vows and a big party in the evening , or go on holiday as a family and get married on the beach then a party .
Sounds bliss but I wander if its really possible as weddings generally bring out the worst in everyone,ha ha.

i would remember to buy a bag so I didn't have to carry a mini selfriges carrier bag around with me to put my lippy in

i would remember to buy stocking and put a hairbrush and shampoo in the overnight bag.

After splashing in the hot tub my hair was a complete nightmare the next day!!

We regret spending so much on our wedding. It was the perfect day at Rookery Hall in Nantwich, but we've often said we could have saved ourselves a lot of cash and maybe gone abroad with just immediate family.

I'm not married and have no plans to, but I think I would like to have an evening ceremony in a forest, with fairy lights and ribbons and lanterns on the trees. People could write messages and tie them to a tree instead of writing in a guestbook, we could have a yurt for dancing and a bonfire for food - jacket potatoes and a spit roast or something. Drinks would be placed in a stream to keep them cool (people could bring a bottle in leiu of a present). There would be sparklers and games and dancing and laughter and informality into the small hours.

I have no idea if this is possible though!

gagamama that sounds absolutely lovely, I'm sure it would be possible too, you should look into it. Wish I'd done that for mine now!

I had a fabulous day, and the only thing I would change would be to get married earlier. I was a complete nervous wreck (vomiting and shaking - and I'm not normally a highly strung person!) the morning of my wedding and all the nerves disappeared as soon as I got to the church. It would also have given us more time to enjoy our day.

Also, I couldn't afford a top notch photographer and compromised on an 'ok' one which I now regret - either splash out on a superb album, or don't bother at all!