Some advice needed!
My best friend(male) has split from his partner, who is also a close friend. They are both Godparents to my DS. Its very accrimonious, and, privately, i don't think that the female friend has behaved at all well. They both have fairly serious mental health issues, and he is coping extremely badly with the split and has been suicidal at times. He doesn't have anyone except me and my DH with whom he can talk about his problems, and we have given him lots of advice about gaining access to his DS, and about coping with his change in circumstances.
My problem is, I want to try to stay friends with his ex - she is my Ds's Godmother and a good friend, even though I don't agree with how she has behaved. We have texted each other a couple of times since the split, but not met up. So how do I manage this? I can't advise them both, and I can't talk to her about the split without betraying my other friend's confidence, but our friendship will be hugely superficial if we can't talk about what's going on in her life - we always talked about things like this before. If it comes to it, I would always choose the male friend over her, but I don't want be in that position if I can help it.
So, can it be done? How?