plato spoke of tornaparts.have you met yours .have you married them

[almostanangel]

a tornapart is "your other half " literally,
the gods were angered i cant rember why please add if you can,,,,,,,we were one being male/female and so the gods tore us apart and cast us to other parts of the world some where is your torn apart have you met that person?

no its knowing how to finish their sentences, being aware of their thoughts even when they arent wiht you, feeling peace when you sleep in their arms and knowing that above everything else you want them to be happy even when that means you cant be with them. believe me it exists. I wish it didnt. And he is NOTHING like my father and different to any other man i have been with. it exists.

Absolutely do not believe in the theory at all. I think it is actually quite dangerous because it suggests that you may not have to work at your relationship if you think you have found your other "tornapart".
I think we so easily buy into being "enchanted" with someone (that rush of connection, lust & attraction) but that isn't love at all.
None of us have another half, we are individuals.

I think the platonic idea of 'tornaparts' is far from being the truth in terms of love between adults. love between adults can only exist imo if you are both pretty much (bar a few neuroses) whole.

then you both have something to give to one another and are more than able to live without each other. isn't choosing to be with someone when you can live without them so much more romantic than to feel incomplete without them?

Agree Sophable, think it is dangerous to think that we "need" anyone else in order to exist as a complete human being.
It is an honour to love someone else, not a "right".

My MIL is an identical twin, and some of this applies to her and her sister too; e.g. they do things like independently wearing the same clothes on the same day, getting their hair coloured EXACTLY the same colour even though they live at opposite ends of the country, definitely finishing one another's sentences and also spontaneously saying the same thing at exactly the same moment... weird!

It's a lovely story/idea but i just can't subscribe to it totally.My first dh and i were together many years ago and i would have described him as my "tornapart",indeed,when he died in an accident i feltas though i had losy my other half and could never be whole again-or meet anyone so right for me again.But several years later i did,we have our ds,and my now dp feels like my "tornapart"-so,no,i dont believe there is just one person for each of us.

I don't believe in that. After all, the bloke who gave that speech in The Symposium was stinking drunk.